So a friend of mine just left a 2 year relationship with a narcissist, and 1 month later started dating her best friend? Who was also the rebound?

[Anonymous]

My friend used her best friend she is dating now as a rebound once or twice in the past when she and the narcissist took a break a while back when they were fighting. She slept with her best friend to get over the now ex, but went back to the narcissist. Right after the breakup with the narcissist she and her best friend slept together again. Now after their breakup that is final, she started dating her best friend one month after her breakup with the narcissist. Is this normal or yet just another rebound thing for her? She has known her best friend for 13 years and claims she has always ran away from him because she was scared of what he can offer her and give her.

She describes him as a perfect human and is perfect for her. But was always open to using him as a rebound, and suddenly out of the blue started dating him. The breakup with the ex she split up with was really tough on her and messed her up and made her do impulsive things like trying to take her life and we don't think one month is enough time to get over everything. All her friends have tried talking to her.

The friend she is dating now is also a psychologist and we feel he is using that to influence her or have influence over her (Nothing against psychologists) but something about this doesn't feel and seem right.

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a bunch of us tried to approach her to tell and show her what she is doing, she pushed all of us away. THis rebound guy apparently lives 5 hours away and she now plans to visit him every weekend and travel by bus. It has come to light that her parents also dont like this guy but she rejects all facts and help we want to offer her

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude this sounds super sketchy. A month is no time to fully move on from a 2 year relationship, especially one that was toxic with a narcissist.

Your friend is probably still emotionally messed up and vulnerable after that breakup. Now jumping straight into something serious with her "rebound guy" best friend just screams rebound relationship. She's not thinking clearly.

The psych angle is also hella suspicious. No way to know his true intentions, but it would be easy for him to take advantage of a "patient" he's been friends with for so long who's freshly heartbroken.

I'd straight up tell your friend this is not a good idea and she needs more time to heal alone before getting with anyone. She might get pissed but someone needs to lay it out straight. This dude is not the one to help her through her issues - that'd be an actual therapist with professional distance.

Keep a close eye on the situation. If things get toxic or manipulative, be there for your friend but don't enable the behavior either. Tough love is what she needs right now more than a rebound fling with someone who could be bad for her mental state.