Am I over exaggerating/assuming that women are approached a lot more often than they actually are?

[Anonymous]

I was chubby growing up & always assumed losing weight would result in getting more attention from quality guys (not counting the catcalling that happened when I’d go to NY). Now, here I am at almost 30, in a taller/slimmer body (women’s US 10) & I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually consider dating. I used to get more attention (but not much compared to other women I knew) but it was usually from questionable guys. And I’m told I’m attractive yet these women I knew would get an abundance of attention from guys. While people told me I was more attractive than these women & these guys that approached them would eventually show they wanted a *good time* a majority of the time, I just never understood why I always seem to be overlooked by guys. On occasion, people would tell me that this & that guy would be looking at me/found me attractive, those were the same guys I found attractive but they NEVER made it known to me directly. I should feel better about myself & while I’ve become more comfortable in my skin over the years, this is truthfully an insecurity that I don’t think I’ll ever completely overcome. Am I just unlucky? Or are most women really that fortunate to have their pick of the litter? I’ve gotten attention from attractive guys on dating apps but it doesn’t hold the same value to me, compared to if those same guys approached me in person. When I say *approached*, I mean in any imaginable scenario: clubs, bars, grocery shopping, coffee shops etc.

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[Avcfhcic]

I think the dating scene is awful currently.
Men are scared to approach women because of the accusations some have gotten and labels given like creep etc. Your comment sums that up with "guys I'd consider dating" which is good looking guys, so there goes 50% of the male population at least who don't even want to try because what's the point.
Only those with previous success go for it and that's a smaller number then previously.
So yes I think women aren't approached as much as you think anymore

[jahaims]

Very attractive women that dress provocatively will get hit on frequently still. With #metoo and the like it is less common for men to feel comfortable approaching women. A couple times of approaching a rude female will discourage a lot of guys from trying to approach someone else again.