Why can my friend not ever bring herself to support me in anything I do in life?

[ML2939]

I’m in a friendship group it’s me and two other girls. Beki and Emily. One of the girls in the friendship group Beki always compliments me and supports me. She always likes my posts on social media and has no issue supporting me. But the other girl, Emily she never ever likes any of my social media photos or compliments me in person. The weird thing is, Emily always likes Beki’s photos on Instagram and compliments things like “gorgeous girl” on her posts, but she completely ignores mine. She’s even muted me on instagram so she can’t view my stories

When I meet up with them, Emily always compliments Beki’s outfit or hair or appearance but she can never bring herself to compliment me. It’s like she just struggles so much to say one complimentary thing to me. One time we both met up for drinks and I got all dressed up. Yet when she saw me she completely ignored complimenting how I looked. But then when Beki arrived she was all over her and saying things like ‘omg you look so stunning I love your hair and outfit today’.

When it was my birthday I uploaded a post on Instagram at a restaurant, and Beki liked my post instantly but Emily ignored my post. A month later she liked my post and sent a very fake ‘I didn’t realise it was your birthday the other month, happy birthday’. That was the first post I’ve made that she has ever liked. And she is always online on social media.

Another time I met up with both girls Emily made a comment saying ‘I haven’t texted you in a while because I don’t really speak to you anymore’

The thing is, I know she sees my content, because she will say things like ‘I saw you went out the other night, I don’t know how you can go out drinking and get up the next day for work’. Or if I get a new job offer and post it she will not like my post but then when we next meet up she said ‘I saw your post by the way’ but no congratulations

Both girls also meet up behind my back without telling me. What’s her problem? Why can’t she ever compliment me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, it sounds like Emily is being a major hater for no good reason. Comparing how she treats you vs Beki, it's obvious she's way nicer and supportive of Beki. What's her problem?

I wouldn't waste any more time trying to figure out why Emily acts that way. Some people are just insecure and like to bring others down to make themselves feel better. She's probably jealous of you deep down.

I say call her out for being rude! Ask her straight up why she never compliments you or likes your posts when she does it for Beki. Make her admit she's acting fake. Hopefully that'll put her in her place.

And if she keeps it up, I'd seriously reconsider being friends with her at all. You don't need that negative energy bringing you down! Surround yourself with people like Beki who lift you up.

You seem awesome - don't let Emily's petty behavior get you down. Her loss if she's gonna act like that. Keep doing your thing and being gorgeous, she's just mad she ain't you! You got this girl.

[HappyWoman34]

I’m sorry to say, but it sounds like Emily doesn’t like you.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because she's not actually your friend.

[Anonymous]

You need better friends.