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I'm thinking about this event and not sure if I was just as guilty. During our mid teen years, my two female friends used to make this guy carry their stuff, got him to perform a ridiculous dance in front of a couple peers and really believe everything they told him. I knew they were using him though (even saw them touching him sometimes) and did nothing.

I didn't do anything what they did. However, I used to laugh whenever he danced awful and believed them. Yet, I'm wondering if just laughing at someone's possible misery was still bad enough.

It's like a phase where you feel the need to fit in and that if you don't join in or at least laugh (I didn't join in; I only laughed) then you're seen as an outcast and possibly risk getting obstracized. Do you think I was as guilty as my friends though?

I was on a Christian dating app, and I found a guy who lived close to me to hang out with in person. We both desire to be married. During the 1st date, we talked about our pasts, like dating/sexual history, family life, and the basics. We briefly talked about our faiths and encounters/revelations, but we didn't dive into that. He doesn't text super often when we are not together, so I started conversations a couple of times to get to know him more during our time apart. He wanted to see me 3 days ago, so we met and had a great time. I still don't fully understand some awkward moments, like him not feeling comfortable picking up a phone call from someone I didn't know while I was with him. I told him I can give him privacy, and he insisted it was okay, but his mood had changed drastically. Besides that, we spent 5 hours together and bonded a lot more, even though we didn't mention our faith at all during that time.

I told him I liked him while we were hanging out, and he said he liked me too. I asked if he wanted to go ahead and start a relationship with me since it was fair to consider how much we were attracted to each other during that time. He said he wanted to go on more dates before we reached that point, which I am fine with. He told me after the date that he had lots of fun, but the following day, I felt we weren't discussing the important things that should've been covered on the 1st date, like faith. I sent him a message asking him to pray about getting God's perspective about us before continuing to ensure that we are compatible. He left me on read, and I had to send a clarifying message the next day letting him know that I didn't mean harm with that last message and apologized for coming off strong. He said it was alright, he understood, but he had never heard someone praying for that. I thanked him and told him I had heard people receiving that information from God before, but I realized that people's experiences can differ. He left me on read again.