Which dating app am I more likely to find someone looking for something serious?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 24 year old guy who’s looking for a serious relationship. I’m looking for someone with the possibility of marrying. I’m mainly looking for a girlfriend or a guy that looks feminine enough to pass as a female. Also I wouldn’t mind getting to know someone from another country. I guess I’m desperately looking for a relationship. From your experience which app am I most likely to find someone in either of these categories? Thank you!

OkCupid

Facebook dating

Taimi

Hinge

Other (please comment)

[Fireguy17]

if you are actually really serious about finding someone to get into a relationship with, you need to dump the free hook up apps, and go look at some of the better pay to join places like eHarmony, It's just lunch, there are Christian sites, farmer sites, sites like those that you can find people with similar interests as yours.
Because of the costs the majority of people are looking to form a bond with someone.
It helps eliminate those that are just looking to get laid, but you still have to put in time and effort to sort those people out and find the right one.
There is no magical app or site where you open it up and find the one. Life is not a Hallmark movie.
You have to look at the person, what they like and don't like, their expectations from someone else, then you start the communication process, and if they are interested in you then you go further, if not keep looking.
It is almost like a job, you have to put in the time and effort, but again you are looking for a life partner, not a free meal and the walk of shame the next morning.
I met my wife on eHarmony, but it took about a year or so before that happened.
Her picture popped up, I liked her profile, so we started emailing each other until we were comfortable enough to call each other and meet.
It grew slowly from there.
Based on your list of what you are looking for it might not be all that easy to find, but you never know, he might be out there looking for you.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Discord or maybe GaG. Not even kidding. Find a girl who fits Your initial requirements if You have any (except looks, the point is to be oblivious to looks), start chatting with her, moving into private chats if and when she's fine with it. If You both like each other's antics, it's time for either a meet-up or an exchange of photos. While I'm "actively" (yeah, that word is not really fitting, to be honest) pursuing a certain Girl I know, so it's not like I actually used Discord for dating, I have found a few good friends (including female friends) through Discord and we have even met in real life.

[wolfcat87]

How do people find people on discord?

[CalmUntilAbused]

@wolfcat87

It's mostly happening by chance, simply joining the right server out of random.

[Anonymous]

Bumble. And make sure you put all the neccessery info on your profile and to apply filter to what you are looking for. I really like Bumble because it forces women to text first, so it will save you a lot of time because most of us would make a selection and then text. You just need to wait. You probably won't get many matches nor messages, but when you do you'll at least know it's genuine. There's also a cool option to extend a match (because you disappear if she doesn't text you in 24h) that tells us that you're very interested.

[Simslover92]

None really. Real life is always better. If I had to choose one it would be Match. com. I've heard people had the most success on there. If I had to choose one of the others on your list though, I went with Facebook dating because at least you can see everything about them, who and what they follow to get a better idea about them.

[Monalisa77]

I didn't even know Facebook dating was a thing lol

[Simslover92]

Lol I just recently found that out myself.

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

@Monalisa77 I don't like Facebook at all but I did meet my partner through a social group when neither of us was looking for or expecting anything like that.

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

The people on these apps are all generally looking for something serious IF their 10/10 comes along even if they don't want to admit to others or themselves. Unfortunately, the culture on these apps is trash because they do not want you to find someone long-term (they can't keep making money off of you that way). The apps are intentionally designed to encourage you to always be looking for the next best thing and never invest in one person to really see if it can work or not. That is their business model.

[HaveNoName]

Very interesting point !!!

[Anonymous]

i dont much about dating apps since the only one i've ever used was tinder, but i think most of the serious relationship apps are lame and mainly have old people on there i think. there's a chill one where its mainly younger people called fruitz where you can pick to only see and interract with people looking for what your looking for (ex: hookup, friends, serious relationship, ..). or else you can try maybe discords for people looking for serious stuff in your country. its better than dating apps and most people are young

[14JDPO]

E-Harmony (in my experience) has more people who are looking for serious relationships. I met my honey there almost 2 years ago, and we're still going strong. Good luck in your journey!

[TenderFantasy]

You lucky. I tried with someone on here and we were on for about five months only then he broke up with me. ... after talking everyday and hanging out about a few times a week! I had fallen for him! But in the end..

Like I said, you're lucky that didn't happen to you!

[14JDPO]

@TenderFantasy I think it's similar to dating in any other scenario though, you have to weed through all the ones that aren't good for you before you can find the one who is. I was 40 when I met my love, and trust me I tried a few other dating apps and met a lot of "players," before meeting my love. I hope you find your person soon. :)

[TenderFantasy]

@14JDPO thanks.

I could've sworn that was going to be my last boyfriend... we had (at least I thought so) a lot in common I felt...

Also, not sure if it's truly similar as going on a dating website/dating app as a lot of the basics are already presented to you up front, the person doesn't have to tell you. Granted both those folks and the ones here can also lie, that is true.

Anyway, thank you for your kindness and helpful attitude. I don't want to give up. I'm still alive. 😛 ... Coincidently, that was the screen name of the guy I dated!

[Kaamraj]

Dating apps are almost a sure shot way for a man to lose his sense of self confidence as they benefit nearly all women and only some men. None of them are any good for a serious long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

In short none of them, if you want a 'serious relationship' avoid dating app's like the plague as the likelihood of you finding a 'serious relationship' on a dating app is virtually nil, you are more likely to find someone for a serious relationship in a supermarket or a coffee shop, even then you'll have to work for it.

All dating app's are optimised for the 'hook-up culture' and bugger all else.

[Levin]

Apparently men outnumber women 5 to 1 on dating apps. Unless you want your confidence destroyed you should stay off those things.

[Monalisa77]

It actually helped mine. I did have someone actually interested in me but he smoked so i wasn't in the end.. Now i know i should be able to find someone irl if i make the effort

[Levin]

I meant for men. The experience for men and women is a world's apart.

[Nikki1989]

You can't be serious and be on dating apps. No one can take that seriously.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

if you had checked his criteria, you would have known that he had been trolling🤣🤣

[milyjohn]

Meetup

It only works in big cities in America, so if that's you, then download it.

[Monalisa77]

They do them in the uk too i might start going to some

[milyjohn]

You should! Just join big groups. Don't join basket weaving. 😂

Go for dance or dinner groups. Those groups are huge.

[Monalisa77]

I can't do dancing. I might go to the ones who meet for coffee or the pub, i struggle doing much else these days

[Monalisa77]

Also i have pretty bad anxiety and i thi k the big ones would be overwhelming for me. Starting small i feel would be good to gain confidence

[KrakenAttackin]

Dating apps are horribly stacked against men. You are competing with every thirsty simp on the planet.

[Anonymous]

I'd say your odds are about as equal with any of them. But your odds are low with all of them. I would expect to find more than 5% of the women are seriously looking. Sorry man you are fighting a definite uphill battle.

[Booklover_90]

I’ve heard that the ones you have to pay for (i. e. Match, eHarmony, Hinge, etc) are the best if you’re looking for a serious relationship.

[coachTanthony]

bumble just use Bumble

[Theodoricus]

These applications are not safe. Only scammers.

[MissBoogus]

I used to love POF , I used it 9 years ago, but it’s changed a lot now

[Bella2423]

Never used any, so I don't know.

[DreamLife7]

Go out and meet people like a normal person.

[shortster]

eHarmony or Facebook dating

[sheikalana]

Real life.

[sawno]

Where in real life are the girls who enjoy being at home and value deep conversations? Because I never met my type in real life and in the rare chances I did she was taken.

[sheikalana]

@sawno well, this is not something you will find the first type you approach someone.

[sawno]

Welcome to my dating struggles haha

[YourSong]

Bumble

[msc545]

NONE.