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when asked what she’s looking for she said “I'm looking for someone that adds to my life in new experiences, and emotional depth, but I'm also content to be patient and selective until someone who does that comes along, as I'm pretty happy with the way things are with just me”.

Both genders are guilty of this. However we are (supposed) to get better at judging and/or giving advice as we get older and more experienced.

But I’ve had grown ass woman say some ridiculous things to me in the past. I feel like many of them take a common mental shortcut falsely believing that dating is same more men as it is for themselves (when all else equal). It’s not. Not at all. Not even close.

That’s not say I don’t know women have to deal with some common pitfalls. Many men will lie to women and tell want them just what they want to hear to get their foot in the door. They figure that once a woman catches feelings for them they will get a “pass” on their bs. Sadly this sometimes works if the guy is good at it. But not always. Also it never works out in the long run for guys. Plus it makes women more bitter and resentful to men in general after the process.

But anyway I feel most women who criticize men don’t put the mental effort into understanding the challenges most men face in the early steps of dating.

Most don’t understand how we are expected to take risks and stick our necks out. How we get shit tested. How we usually have to plan dates and usually spend money. How the odds are usually stacked against us. How we are supposed to keep calm and brush off (sometimes nasty) rejection and just move on quickly forgetting about it. How women falsely assume that men run into just as many opportunities as they do. Etc.

My fiancée is from China and Mandarin is her native language. Her English vocabulary is very good although her pronunciation of American English follows Mandarin rules rather than American English rules.

She has taught me a few expressions in Mandarin: hello, I love you, have you lost your mind? But she acts as if I am incapable of learning her language and she is not interested in teaching me. Every evening, she speaks on the phone - in Mandarin - with family and friends. Maybe she doesn't want me to understand what they are saying, but I think she may just be insecure about her ability to teach me Mandarin.

I may purchase language CD's and listen to them every weekday when I am going to and coming from work. The language thing is frustrating, but. . . she is the kindest, most gentle soul I have ever known, I love her, and she loves me.

What is your experience dating someone whose native language is not YOUR native language?