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This girl i dated 5 years ago and i recently got back in touch.

I was a major simp and loser back then. Now i own my own place, have a stable job.

We broke up very badly but we finally talk it out and admitted our mistakes. We talked for a few days and she kinda instant reacted.

I would like to give it another shot with her if she can prove to me she is worth it. When we dated the first time I gave her a lot of attention and became her first boyfriend. She wasn't the prettiest girl but i liked her.

Now after a few days she is acting like the other Girls i met in the time between. Responding late, leaving me on read for a while. Just to be sure I do the same and like double the time on it.

She said last week she doesn't see us getting together again but It seem like the dating game is started again. I Know she can be worth my love again.

But before I go crazy about her again. Is she re-testing me. We both still feel a connection

Women are notorious for sending mixed messages and “shit testing” men. They say something is okay when it really isn’t. They want to see if the guy is self controlled and wise enough to pass the test.

However there are a few scenarios men are guilty of this as well. I can think of only two scenarios where men unfairly “shit test” women.

Shit Test #1: He pressures her to have sex early. She gives it up and he then later loses respect for her.

A lot of men judge women for being promiscuous/easy. If she initiating random sex with lots of guys that’s one thing. But if a guy pressures her to do it and she gives in (and enjoys it) then he really has no right to judge her. It was all his idea.

Yet there are some men who do this and frankly it’s a double standard bs. I actually stayed in long term relationships with all three of my past gfs despite having sex with all on them within 3 dates. One ex girlfriend said she would of done it on our first date (we did on the second) if I initiated. But I am actually glad I didn’t.

Shit Test #2: Telling her you don’t mind if she hangs out and talks (a lot) with other guys including exes. However when she does the man gets angry/jealous.

Jealousy is a tricky bastard. On one end a very controlling man is extremely insecure. He gets pissed off if another guy looks to long at his girlfriend or tries to chat with her (often the other guy doesn’t know she’s taken). It can actually be a compliment when other guys check out your girlfriend/wife JUST as long they are respectful about it. But when they cross a line it deserves an ass kicking.

On the flip side some guys seemingly don’t mind at all of their girlfriend/wife hang out with other guys and even do more with them. It’s like they are somehow demonstrating they aren’t controlled by jealousy.

But the truth is some guys “say” it’s alright when deep down they are not at all okay with it. It’s there way of “testing” their girlfriend/wife to make sure they really love them.

1) I matched with an introverted girl on a dating app and we had an 'outing' at a board game cafe on the first weekend. We had an amazing time and kept texting every day. She mentioned that her previous match was very weird and pushy, and that he made her feel uncomfortable.

2) Two weekends later, we went to a beautiful botanic garden. Everything went well but when I got home and texted her thanking her for the 'outing', she ignored my message. The next day she texted 'Hi' and we continued chatting as if the outing never took place. I sure hope that she wasn't upset.

3) This weekend we'll be visiting another touristy place, and I'm at a loss. Should I treat it as a...