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I know some people have the end goal of marriage when it comes to dating. Me personally, I date because I want to build a closer more intimate and romantic relationship with the person I’m interested in. I don’t really care if we get married or not, I’m just going with the flow, if he ends up being “the one” then I’d consider marriage but other than that I usually just want to be with them for the sake of being with them. I don’t feel like I’m wasting my time either bcs the time was well spent getting to know that person, whether it ends in marriage or not. What about you? Do you date to marry or do you date just to date them?

Both involved a cruel person stealing someone's market value. Men and women are obviously valued differently. When it comes to love and relationships or marriage, what's worse?

- A man that promises the world and purposely wastes the woman's time and years. Then when she gets to a certain age, she gets ditched for someone younger. Not only she doesn't get those years back but she's depressed about possibly not being able to have kids anymore. The guy destroyed her years and her motherhood. We are afterall valued for our youth and fertility. Men don't care too much about our careers.

- A golddigger makes it harder for the rest of us to find a good family-oriented man. She uses him with charm but somehow he doesn't realize what she really is like. She got what she wanted and then wants to ditch him for no reason (just that she got bored, that's it), just for monetary incentive. She gets half of what poor man's hard work, destroying his market value he worked hard for.

I really sympathize with both cases. No one deserves getting their market value destroyed by cruel narcissists. Though personally I think the first case is worse. Money can eventually be earned back even if it takes years or longer. However, once we can't have babies anymore, that's not ever gained back, literally never. If our motherhood is taken away, it's forever gone. Money isn't forever gone.

My boyfriend and I have explained to my mom several times now that I need a much better job (outside of the house that pays hourly) in order for us to move in together later on…. my boyfriend and I are in a committed relationship for over 2 years now. My boyfriend also thinks that my mom doesn’t help me out enough or pay much attention to me and why isn’t she helping me find work….

My mom gets very mad and annoyed anytime we bring the subject up to her and in private she tells me negative things ( I’m gonna get tired out, etc..) and then says why don’t I continue working from home… My mom also thinks my boyfriend is going to make me lose my “disability” benefits that I get due to the fact that I hve severe anxiety and depression and learning disability - if I end up getting a job outside the house….

is she jealous of my relationship? Or is she fearful of me moving out?

ps - everyone loves my boyfriend and he has many friends and is well liked at his job as well

You're apparently in a good relationship but suddenly you've realized there are major incompatibilities. Just love alone isn't enough. Which would be worse:

- Poor communication: You were both in the "falling in love" stage that you failed to see if they share your similar goals and values. Neither of you communicated what you wanted out of the relationship. You've just realized you share nothing in common, have arguments and there is too much drama.

- Getting lied to: You were honest about what you wanted out of the relationship, your goals, values, etc. They pretended to assimilate to your ways and lied so they wouldn't lose you. However, there comes a point they can't keep up with the lie and the truth eventually comes out. You're rightfully upset they pretended to be on your same page.