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I dislike that my boyfriend appears to ONLY value men’s opinions. Anything I or any other woman says to him goes in one ear and out the other. But let a guy say the same thing and he's all ears and ready to take the advice.

Anyways, it made me question whose opinions I tend to value? I am very stubborn and not many people can get through to me. I can only think of one girl who has just really gotten through to me but I guess I notice that it’s mostly been guys, thus I value men’s opinions more.

I don't know if my guy simply values the male view more because he’s so insecure and intimidated by other men, which he says all the time. But I value the guys perspective because I want to know how to captivate, communicate with, and better understand the gender that I’m attracted to.

Some may call that a “pick me” but I don’t consider it the same thing. I feel pick me’s seek validation while I more so want advice and guidance. Who better to understand a guy I’m into than a guy himself?

If I wanted advice on how to improve my appearance, dress style or to better control my emotions, then I’d seek a woman’s advice since we better understand one another’s insecurities and reactions. I rarely ask other women for advice on guys though because so many take it as competition to go after that same guy. Its so weird. Girlcode always seems to go out the window.

Another thing could be that I grew up looking up to my grandpa more than anyone else. I also got along best with my male cousin and my uncle. My friends have always been 90% guys. Like, my mom held it down for a bit but her inconsistent behavior and broken promises really got to me. So I stopped looking up to her. Maybe she, my grandma and a bunch of flaky female friends and cousins ruined it for other women too.

Some men have wronged me but never as many men as women. I guess same can be said for my boyfriend since he feels more women have wronged him yet all I ever see these days is men treating him badly. #FeelFreeToList

I asked him if I made him uncomfortable and if he wanted to stop teaching me guitar that’s absolutely fine but he just said “no, it’s all fine, don’t worry dude” even though I think there’s several signs that show he’s probably not comfortable or he can tell that I’m really attracted to him. Why would a guy just brush things off and not address them? He also said the other day that he got divorced and also said that he “doesn’t teach people that he doesn’t have time for — money isn’t the main thing anymore, some people are just too emotionally draining” why would he say this to me? I don’t know whether there’s mutual attraction or whether I just make him uncomfortable? But I’ve cancelled my next lesson with him because I need to sort my head out.
it’s just odd how he’s friendly and open… but things can be so awkward and weird at the same time.