Why do guys say everything is all good when it’s not?

[KezHarris]

I asked him if I made him uncomfortable and if he wanted to stop teaching me guitar that’s absolutely fine but he just said “no, it’s all fine, don’t worry dude” even though I think there’s several signs that show he’s probably not comfortable or he can tell that I’m really attracted to him. Why would a guy just brush things off and not address them? He also said the other day that he got divorced and also said that he “doesn’t teach people that he doesn’t have time for — money isn’t the main thing anymore, some people are just too emotionally draining” why would he say this to me? I don’t know whether there’s mutual attraction or whether I just make him uncomfortable? But I’ve cancelled my next lesson with him because I need to sort my head out.
it’s just odd how he’s friendly and open… but things can be so awkward and weird at the same time.

There’s mutual attraction but he’s trying to brush it off

He feels awkward but is avoiding this conversation

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He’s 46 by the way and I’m 22

[NathanDavis]

probably... he doesn't want you to bother or worry with the issue

and, because it will be fine... eventually

[KezHarris]

I don’t know because he’s done a few things that make me think he’s uncomfortable around me either because he likes me too or because he knows I like him and he doesn’t want to reject me or something… I dunno his words and actions aren’t meeting up.

[NathanDavis]

he probably does not want to be known or seen as that guy who's getting with his -half his age student-

some people sure like to say all kinds of stuff about those things, lol

or maybe he doesn't want anything to do with relationships or situationships after his divorce

[KezHarris]

Yeah probably. I cancelled the lesson with him next week to sort my head out… I dunno.

[NathanDavis]

many other music teachers around... I am sure

get a female one (=

[KezHarris]

He’s the best in my area… the rest aren’t as good as him

[NathanDavis]

yes, but you're not learning much, are you...

[Keith469]

An older guy here.

My guess is that he's REALLY attracted to you, but also feels inhibited by the age gap, is shy, or both.

When I feel attracted to a much younger woman I usually try to brush it aside be side I don't want to be that pervy old guy who guts on women young enough to be his daughter.

If you are interested youʻll probably have to give hima a clear, unmistakeable sign that you are interested.

Invite him to spend time with you in another conte

[KezHarris]

He rejected me

[Keith469]

Sorry that happened to you, but it's better that you found out now than later. One thing I forgot to say is that I'm not there and didn't see what was going on so all I had was a guess and I'm sorry my guess was wrong. I also wish I would have said that no matter what anybody else says listen to your gut and what your gut is telling you cuz that is probably right.

I know you don't want to hear this but you're disappointment will pass and it'll be another guy who catch your fancy and who will fancy you in return. Good luck and happy hunting.

[IslaTheWitch]

it's annoying, right? You know... you can feel it... it's in the air and they still say "I'm alright" or "it's alright" when everything screams to you that it's all but "alright"

[strateguy632]

mainly we learnt that sharing our complaints, attracts criticism discouragement works. also a bit to pretend we are strong and problems don't worry us.

[QuietRunner]

he's really trying to make you feel okay or just make the situation non confrontational

[DreamLife7]

So they won't deal with your drama