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My boyfriend and I (who are in a long distance relationship - please don’t judge - ) have this mutual online male friend that will not let me use any kind of affection towards my boyfriend in his discord server. I used to have feelings for our mutual male friend, but realized it would never work out and got over him. I then began dating my boyfriend and our male friend tried to make my boyfriend look like the bad guy and made me look like the innocent one in every little conflict that he’d create in his mind as a problem even though there was none. It seemed like he tried to break us up, even going as far as asking me out on April Fool’s Day.

Now he won’t let me use “affections in the chat” as he likes to say. I get why he says it to this one female friend of ours because she’s kinda obsessed with him, but I can’t call my own boyfriend babe. I have to use his real name. He won’t even allow me to go on discord voice chat when my boyfriend goes into discord voice call. I am starting to get very irritated by this and I don’t know what to do.

*Note: he has a girlfriend by the way*

I found out recently that my boyfriend and his ex were still sending each other pictures of NSFW fan art for the first month of our relationship then stopped because they realised it was inappropriate.

For context they were in a long distance relationship and used to send each other NSFW fan art all the time. They broke up when we started dating and she ghosted him for 2 weeks, then when they started talking and hanging out online again they started sending the pictures again.

It's been over a year since this happened and they stopped but they still hang out online together often. I only found out that they used to date recently and then I found out about the pictures and i feel hurt and a bit betrayed.

I want to know if what they did is considered cheating or if it was just really inappropriate.

I'm not sure what to do and having some clarity on this might help me figure it out.

After talking to my boyfriend about it I've forgiven him and he has agreed to stop spending time alone with her and only to talk to her when she's hanging out with our mutual friends but I feel like I should confront her because she kept this from me and befriended me while sending these pictures to my boyfriend and not telling me about their relationship.

If you guys dont consider it cheating then I'll let it go and try to move on but if you do consider it cheating then I feel like I have a right to bring it up despite it being in the past and at the very least demand an apology from her and at worse cut ties with her completely. This whole situation really pains me because I did like her as a friend.