Why did he break all ties with me?

[Anonymous]

so i met a guy online and he was really nice to me but i only thought of him as a friend. later on i liked him and told him, and he actually liked me too! so we started dating. i also started talking to my online ex and his girlfriend, and we ended up making a group chat with the three of us. we somehow got to the topic that i was single and i said i was actually taken, and my ex suggested i add him to the group chat, so i did. he didn't really talk much in the group chat (not sure why). (i also dont know how its part fo the story but just go along with it) so after a bit i could feel me and my boyfriend growing distant, then a few days later he broke up with me, yet said 'he still loved me'. i tried to accept it by overthinking so i asked him a few questions about it, and at that time we were friends (again). then i asked him do you still want to be friends and he said 'if you're down im down, whatever man' which gave me vibes that he didn't really care, so i got kind of mad and was kind of toxic. i said: 'its like you dont care and your treating me like a piece of shit' then he just suddenly said bye, have a good life, sorry for everything then cut off ALL TIES with me. (yes i technically said i did not want to be friends anymore, but cutting all ties IS kind of extreme... right?)

[Anonymous]

Date in private
Love in private
Like in private
Never show who you like easily to others


Yet you collected all the roaches including your ex to a group chat.. with a guy you like !
Never be this immature. Wait you are 18- well you are young haha hm mistakes are allowed at your age this is a lesson for you.
I don’t think what you did is exactly the cause but everything adds a bit. He might also wants to stay distant friends for now or has any other issues we dont know.
You can follow up with him messaging “ hey I hope you are doing ok thinking Of you ~” if he replies good if not then let it go.
Don’t be sad this is normal humans are dysfunctional lol it’s not your fault.


Meanwhile get to meet other people or guys ✨😅
Don’t worry you will be fine ✨

[Asker]

how do i message him i have no way of contacting him

[petitedollbabee]

Adding him to a group chat with your ex is a bit much… if it was a fresh relationship then he was best to break things off before it got serious. I don’t think it’s extreme for him to cut all ties. You guys broke up, you said you didn’t want to be friends, so where does that leave him? He made the right decision to cut ties and move on, no point in dragging baggage around (you) when he doesn’t want to get back together and you don’t want to remain friends.

[Asker]

that makes sense

[nitsuj86]

Women that still hang out and talk with their exes... One of the biggest red flags possible.

Then to top it off, you added him to a group chat with the guy you used to fuck, without asking him first. I don't want to be friends with any guys my girl used to fuck. You can call it insecure, but most women have an issue with it as well.

Rather than have the argument with you, that he knew would go no where and end with you doing what you want anyway, he decided to just cut and run. You weren't worth the fight.

You didn't act like a girlfriend/future wife, and he treated you like you are for the streets as a result.

[Asker]

1. im still a virgin
2. i asked if he wanted to join
3. i've never met him before

[spartan55]

Let this be a lesson that you are always held accountable for your words and actions. You asked for what you got. If you didn't mean it then why did you say it? Something to remember for next time.

[spartan55]

Thanks for the MHO!

[Asker]

np :)

[Hassan_8]

You've put him in an awkward chat with your ex and his girlfriend, he was probably thinking why do you still think about your ex while he is with you?, and he didn't feel comfortable in this group for sure

[Asker]

oh, true

[Guy13]

You were talking to your ex and he found out.

[Asker]

he knew

[Dkc123]

You asked for it.
U yourself said he was treating you bad and didn't care so he thought cutting thebties would be better..

[Asker]

oh..

[Jamie05rhs]

You should never have brought your ex into the situation.