A random girl in a restaurant suddenly claimed that my boyfriend was asking for her number in the washroom. But he is denying the fact and saying he didn't even talk to a single person there. I never have seen anything in him so that I can doubt on him. He is very caring and shows his love and affection in every possible way. I have free access to his phone laptop everything even his bank. Now I'm very much confused why the girl would lie and I cannot digest the fact even that he can cheat. Whenever he is online he talks only with me... At night too he studies with me. If someone has any intention of cheating it can be felt by their instinct. He is leaving no stone behind to make me believe that the girl is lying. He didn't ask for anyone's number. What should I do? Even if he did is it okay for a boy to ask a random girl's number. Should I break up with him?
There are many people both male and female that don't set off red flags. This is why when asked I tell people to slow down and take their time getting to know a partner. Get to know their family and take CAREFUL notice of their friends. Not long ago I was talking to a female about 24 and she asked me this same question. I told her to watch carefully. Ask him to tell you about his last girl and briefly tell you why they broke up. If he hesitates or attempts to change the subject take a break until he talks to you. Some people are VERY good at hiding things. I was talking to a man about 10 years my junior several months ago. His wife hid a series of affairs for almost 20 years, he had no clue. In fact, had it not been for her vehicle breaking down he might never found out. He brought his vehicle for her to use that day and he went with the Wrecker to the shop that fixed her car. While going through the car he discovered her "burner" phone. She did not think about getting it out of her car. What I heard was she really only used a small purse and the phone would not fit in it. Then even before he got home even though it was locked he saw some alerts. He was 100% broadsided. She hid it well. Go by your gut! If it is telling you to dump the guy do it. You don't need this stress, closure is very much overrated.
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I do not know how long you have been together. My wife and I have been together for 51 years. I do know that when you radiate happiness and love there are others who become jealous. It is difficult to find a soul mate who stops thinking ME and starts thinking WE. But when it happens, it is evident to all and if they are not in that type of relationship they will subversively try to torpedo yours. Believe me he is getting offers spoken or visual frequently. One of two things will happen, either he will learn to ignore the advances or he will not ignore them. My wife's own sisters would invite us to functions and Invite potential sexual partners for me. Thoughout the night I was inundated with "Wanna Fuck" "Dick in Mouth" hand signals and Fishy mouths. I was not fire proof but managed to save my arousal till we got to our room. My wife enjoyed the release.
Unless that girl was his spiteful ex , I would take her word for it. Firstly, you're not watching your boyfriend 24/7. You WON'T know what he is doing when he is alone. I've been hit on and chased by men (who had girlfriends and kids at home).
Secondly, what you do not realize is vast majority of boyfriends shower their gfs with love and affection. You're not the only one. There are men out there who make their gfs feel like queens but yet still cheat behind her back. I've seen it.
If I were you, I would take note of what the girl said to you but I wouldn't trust her 100%. She could very well be jealous. Some girls are very pathetic and petty. But I would keep a close on your boyfriend and watch what happens in the future.
It's an awful situation to be in. But because you don't have any hard evidence as such. You are left with one of two choices.
Either, tust your boyfriends word. Someone you've known a long time. Who has never given you a reason to doubt his loyalty
Or trust the word of a random stranger. Someone's character and personality which you dont know anything about.
If he'd ask a random woman in the restroom for her number while you are in the restaurant , I'm sure they'd be other red flags in his life that he can't be trusted. But there's nothing like that according to what you've stated.
Did you question her, or did she just say what she said then make a quick exit? Did she leave the restaurant after she told you?
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Kind of weird for a random girl who has a man to stick her neck out and try and cause problems for you who is a complete stranger. Usually this type of behavior arises in other ways as well where you would get the gut feeling that something is going on but if this is the only thing then I would just stay aware for other behavior things that might pop up from him. People always have a first occurrence of bad behavior and this could be it.
It strikes me that there is something more to this , regardless of the qualities you mention in him I cannot get past the fact that a completely random girl with nothing to gain would report this to you. I mean you can’t really mis interpret a guy asking for your number can you? If I were you I’d keep a watchful eye on him and his movements and obviously chat to him very seriously about what has occurred and how it’s made you feel , ask him how he might feel in your shoes etc if you don’t get an explanation that you are happy with this will linger with you and start to affect how you feel in other parts of the relationship !
I would back off given your emotions are running amuck. Chill out for a little bit snd think things through. One little accusation and you go all “No Trust” then this relationship is over. He sounds like he has been nothing but straight-up. I woukd let it rest and see if he brings it up in a study session together.
If he he did, dump him. I don't asking for another girls nbr is right if he is your man.
How did this girl tell you? Was she angry? Or letting you know as a sisterhood thing? Was she in the mens or he in the girls.
It is possible she was making it up. I think you need to assess why she was saying so. The more crazy she seemed the less I would believe.It's a tough situation. There's no way to tell whether she's lying or telling the truth.
For now I'd just say trust your guy cause he's not given you a reason to doubt him. But just keep an eye out. If there really is something going on, there will be other signs. Observe and make your decision.Well that's weird... But if he's with you most of the time and you have access to most of his stuff he probably wouldn't be able to hide it.. I think you probably need more evidence... Did the girl look like she's mental? Maybe she did it for attention..
I think the thing to remember about men and women is that women can be as equally horrible as any man though the devices and methods they may use when they want to hurt others may differ, a horrible man's devices being more physical and maybe destructive of property while horrible when when they want to lash out and hurt someone use manipulation, rumours, false allegations often that make her the innocent victim or just passing on what she supposedly heard.
I'd give benefit of doubt to the guy whom is building trust.
Yes women will backstab, why in her case... who knows.
I seriously doubt the guy would go in the womens bathroom and ask for her number, that sounds way out of character.
Unless a woman is really nasty it takes a lot of thought to go up and do what she said to you. I would pay very close attention. Might even tell him to gauge the reaction. If she was honest that was pretty decent of her.
"in the washroom"? So he went into the women's bathroom and asked some girl for her number? Really? Or she was in the men's bathroom? ... yeah okay... that makes no sense.
His bank? You’re spending his money? Is this why you wanted him or is this just something he did?
I don’t know. If he’s trying to cheat regardless dump him nowWhat was she doing in the wash room?
I think he should see you for what you really are and make his way out.Wait, is the bathroom for both men and women? Also, don’t trust a stranger. I mean, why, out of all places, would you boyfriend ask a random woman for her number in a bathroom? That chick sounds crazy!
Since he gives you free access and no red flags, I would assume that the girl is one of those who enjoys creating turmoil. I've seen it where one will try to start a fight between two guys who are minding their own business.
If you’re even questioning him because of something a complete stranger said, you should dump him. He deserves better.
Women get jealous of other women being happy in a relationship or marriage. Women cause other women to get a divorce more than anything. For some strange reason miserable women want other women to join them in their misery.
Did he know her already? If she was a random girl, I don't see why she would have lied
The fact that you are taking a complete stranger's word over your boyfriend's shows that you don't trust him at all and that your relationship can be destroyed by a single, conniving sociopath.
There is a tiktok trend for girls doing this sort of shit for likes.
If he is about to cheat you can generally tell, because he also lies at some other things.
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