Is it right for my husband not to trust me?

[JezzOz1]

I've hide a lot little things throughout the years ,20+, and little he has kinda figured that out by himself either from being nosey or from just pure luck and instinct. Everyone lies but I just see it as he don't need to know and if he don't ask then better. I was never used to checking in with anyone with my daily business or life. I don't consider it being a lie when I told him the truth about going to work or taking my sister somewhere he just never asked what else I did in between. Majority of the times i felt like he didn't deserve to hear it anyways i was either mad at him or just didn't like him at the time. A few guys friends he never knew about and a few times I decided to spend time some old friends that's all. I stopped all that completely quit work and stay home 24/7 just to prove my loyalty, and he is still not happy. His new trust issues are now that I play online games pretty much all day and chat with a few different guy buddies here and there, we exchange a few flirty words here and there and maybe a cute selfie when asked. I mean come on get over it it's not like I really know these guys or are even locals, half of our chats are made up hot smut it's not like i was really going to do any of the things that were said, besides that i was bored and he's never here when i need him he's to busy supposedly working or hanging out with his friends. I'm I wrong or does he have a good reason to feel like that seriously I say get over it I'm here right?

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+1 y

We've already talked bout everything more than once I've said sorry it's not my fault he can't move on stop feeling sorry for yourself I say

[Oigit]

There only so much lying you can do before someone is simply going to stop trusting you for good. Even if it's a small lie it will get them closer to a point where they stop trusting you. So a small lie isn't that small. Also you have to remember that a lie by omission is still a lie. Everyone deserves honesty more then anything. That trumps us thinking someone does not deserve to hear something.

Maybe he should also hang out with some women you don't know about and flirt with women in a online game as well. Since it's not a big deal for you to do it, it shouldn't be a big issue for him to do the same correct?

[JezzOz1]

Idgaf he can do what he wants but he sure is not gonna treat me the same way I treat him that's a no for sure.

[caring__1]

As long as you keep legitimizing your actions to yourself and others, he won't trust you. You've created this (and it doesn't matter the reason you did so), but now you don't like the consequences you brought on yourself. Before you say or do anything, ask yourself whether you'd truly appreciate (not just tolerate) being on the receiving end of what you plan on dishing out. If you wouldn't appreciate it, come up with another alternative. Until your patterns change, don't expect his patterns to change.

[JezzOz1]

I can't think like that cause I've never been in that situation so I wouldn't know or care too

[OlderAndWiser]

"Everyone lies but I just see it as he don't need to know" So I'm going to give you some advice that's a lie.

"i felt like he didn't deserve to hear it anyways" Now that I think about it, you don't really deserve to get any advice at all.

"I mean come on get over" . . . and IDGAF if it bothers you.

Actually, giving you the benefit of the doubt, I will guess that you REALLY aren't this stupid but you're just TROLLING!

[Anonymous]

" Everyone lies" <<<<<That comment was where I stopped reading. There are a few people that are honest and sometimes even brutal with their honesty. I refuse to lie and I deeply resent YOU using such a BS reason to justify what looks like a 304!. Just to let you know, if the husband does not trust you your marriage has Cancer on it. At some point, this Cancer will kill it! It's women like you that are the primary reason I am not married, and NEVER will! You should do your husband a huge favor and GTFO of his life!

[HighValue]

You are a cheater and you are the kind of woman that makes a prenuptial agreement necessary for men so they can leave a disloyal woman without having their stuff stolen.

[Sargentcaptain]

So you're lying to your SO about your whereabouts and are flirting with other guys and you're, what, shocked that he doesn't trust you, and it's all his fault?

[bamesjond0069]

He will never trust you as long as you say "it's not my fault" and rightly so. He should demand your phone and vehicle as well until you are trustworthy and if you dont accept he should leave you.

[exitseven]

You have a shitty attitude and I would not trust you either.

[driven159]

how would your trust level be if he did the things, you do that is the question?

[In_Trance]

If you don't trust each other, what are you even doing?

[Yellovv]

You should ask yourself about it, if he is working hard for you and you are not interesting with him, that's your fault..

[FýrdracaDócincel]

You're a special kind of despicable, aren't you.

[jahaims]

Why would he trust a lier? Not everyone lies

[larry69]

Time for you to ask yourself why?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Hahahaha 😂 😂

[jimmy2]

Wow how long you 2 together

[clemdenim]

What do you think is fair

[JohnK123]

Yeah u lied to him