I honestly cannot handle my husbands dog anymore and I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

My husbands dog is a 2yo female Heeler mix and she resource guards terribly. Her cage, the food dish and my husband especially but it's not limited to these things. These are just the worst of it. If my husband even so much as speaks to me, she is trying to jump on him to take away his attention. Cuddling my husband? Not going to happen. She jumps between us and starts growling at me. She has bit me on the back of the ankle. She lunged at my son when he went to hug my husband before bed. She has bit a random old man on the side of the street. She has jumped out of the vehicle and gotten lost twice now (I wasn't in the vehicle- it was just my husband). I've been begging him since he got her to return her. One of his family members gave her to him for free because she couldn't handle the excessive whining and territorial behavior. She's been through training since we got her and literally nothing has worked. She is going after our cats constantly.

And now I'm pregnant. 10 weeks. The dog started acting really weird before I even found out I was pregnant. She started just staring at me from the corner of the room with her head down, growling or whining at me. She is now constantly underfoot and has tripped me several times. Wherever me or my husband goes, she is right on our heels so close that she is drawing blood from digging our heels. And my husband thinks it's all so fucking hilarious and "adorable" because "aww she loves us so much that she wants to be with us 24/7". It's not even remotely cute and I don't trust this dog at all. I don't want her anywhere near our baby when it comes. I don't trust that she won't hurt the baby whenever my husband tries holding it. And whenever I raise these concerns, I'm met with a "We aren't getting rid of the fucking dog. She's family." She isn't my family. I hate the fucking thing and I'm the one who constantly takes care of her and I'm done. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't even want to be in my own house because of her.

[petitedollbabee]

That’s a difficult situation. At first it sounded like she’d had very poor training or none at all, but you said she’s been through a lot of training and nothing has worked. Honestly, if your husband actually cared about you, he would get rid of the dog since it’s causing you this much distress. Especially when you’re pregnant. It’s unacceptable for your husband to wave off your concerns. If I was in your shoes, I would find somewhere else to stay for a while, and if my husband asked why, I would say I don’t feel safe being in the same house as that dog and I won’t be coming back until the dog is dealt with.

[Paul09]

Alm I'm reading is human caused the dog to behave like this. Take the dog to a specialized trainer. Or use YouTube, tiktok, google! Someone has to be the leader. Obviously know one leads the dog. You need to work on the dog and not expect it to magically change by themselves. Dogs are way easier than kids, do I wonder how some people are able to raise kids.

[Asker]

I stated in the post that she's already been through training. She was just "graduated" out of the program and received a certificate despite her behaviors not getting any better but my husband gladly accepted the certificate with a smile on his face and an overwhelming amount of treats.

[Paul09]

I understand. But obviously didn't work. Need a better teacher or different training method's. Just because one way might not work, doesn't mean other ways won't. Can't give up. Could it be that dog is given treats when it does these bad things? Wish I could actually help.

[Asker]

Oh absolutely. My husband gives her treats constantly for no reason. My husband is the problem, realistically.

[Paul09]

I'm sorry to hear. Sucks some people don't realize what they think is good, is actually doing harm. Wish you could make him realize that some day. Good luck

[Guy13]

This is dangerous and if this is the sampling of how he will be disciplining your kids then good luck 🍀.

You better have this dog exampled as what you are worried about going into parenting with him. If you are ever going to have an opinion now is the time to substantiate it.