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I have an ex right before I met my wife and after we broke up I deleted every pic I had of her and moved on. A couple months later my ex and I broke up, I couldn't stop thinking about her so I looked at her IG and she posted pictures that I had taken of her. Every few month since our breakup, I get bombarded with thoughts of her and I look at her social media and I see pics of places we've been together or pics I took of her. I don't think she wants to get together and I got over her fairly quick. I married someone this year that is perfect for me and have even stranger and stranger connection. I've thought about my ex twice since we broke up. The first time was on my birthday a couple months after our breakup and an hour later she wished me a happy birthday. The next time was yesterday when I saw a YouTube video showing a destination I went to with my ex and it was all the same places we visited together wo I started thinking about her and the places I visited with her. An hour after watching the video, she messaged me. I don't have the impression she wants to get back together but the connection we have is weird.

My wife and I have an even stronger connection. We've had people over to our house and for some reason I felt the need to food. Ten minutes after I did that, my wife asked me to order food and every time I've ordered, it's been from the place she's thinking of. This happens all the time and it's like we're in sync. But it gets even weirder when she starts answering questions that I've got in my head and before I can even ask, she's already answered my question, When I ask her about this she says that she knew what I was thinking. When we were long distance, she said that she could always feel me next to her. She always struggled being clingy and thought that was why she was single but when we started dating, she felt that I was always there and it cured her clinginess.

I'm curious if anyone else has had someone show up after you've thought about them.

I ask this with the upmost respect and to women only as I am not a woman and cannot and will not speak on their behalf but I’ve observed a phenomenon where I see average guys getting with women I can only dream of and that’s absolutely great and I’m happy for them, one of my best friends looks exactly like little xan down to the last detail and gets girls left and right and non stop and since we’ve been friends has dated at least 40 different beautiful women, some of which have straight up said they would have sex with me if given the chance while dating him but don’t actually talk to me after they break up with him. Now I take care of myself and would say I’m a handsome mixed guy and I haven’t had a woman show interest in me in forever, no dms, no glances from women just like me, and I’m left absolutely perplexed in a sense. it’s just an observation and if this does apply then why?