Why is it that after a break-up, a guy is always adivsed to get drunk and have random ONS?

[SeleneSecret]

My older brother just broke up last week and he's in no mood for alcohol nor bars, nor dates. He doesn't like getting drunk and doesn't understand why you need to get drunk or have sex with random girls to have fun.

Dating right now, after he just had a recent break-up to him feels like trying to eat pizza after you just had a stomach infection and vomited. But honestly, why is that the common advice for a man that just broke up? If we break up, people are more understanding that we need time to process our emotions and the aftermath, even offered us ice-cream. Get guys get the complete opposite advice of getting wasted on alcohol.

[Vesuvius87]

It's a dumb ''men aren't emotional beings nor need time to process things'' stereotype. Off course men are only humans. He doesn't have to get drunk nor have ONS if he doesn't want that nor ever feel obligated to.

[jahaims]

That is unhealthy coping. Most people are immature and emotionally unhealthy so that is why they do it to cope

[jjj101010]

I guess it’s the thought of doing things u weren’t able to while u were in a relationship

[SeleneSecret]

Yet there are many things you can do that doesn't have to involved wasting more on alcohol and sex. There is hiking, cultivating your mind on books, traveling to historical places, skating, spending more time with the family... so much to do in life besides getting intoxicated and meaningless ONS. That isn't going to solve anything and you're back to being single anyway.

[jjj101010]

Well u can do all of those things while u r in a relationship. I guess it’s about the things u can’t do

[SeleneSecret]

Not if they both have different hobbies or goals. If you like traveling but they don't, then you can't travel while in that relationship.

[Emanon25]

That’s not going to help getting drunk

[SeleneSecret]

Exactly. That's unhealthy for both mentally and physically. I think that's the worst advice to give to a man that just had a break-up.

[Emanon25]

I agree