I am so confused because this man was obsessing over me and wouldn’t leave me alone, he did horrible things but I took him back in hopes we would get better. His argument with me was that I was “the man in the relationship” and he was more emotional than me. He said I lacked communication skills which is true. But what he did to me i feel as though caused that. There was just so much turmoil but he always said the intimacy was amazing and I’m the first girl to ever do certain stuff to him in that way. So we had a deep talk and we decided to take what I thought was a break, I wasn’t expecting to never hear from him again. Literally in the car as we agreed on this on the way to my house he said “I didn’t want it to be like this” and we both said we loved each other as I left.4 days later i am blocked on instagram and facebook but he still has my family on there? Only thing he kept me on was Snap. I sent him a text once I knew I was blocked because we’ve been dating so long I was just like I would appreciate if you told me if there was someone else or if u we’re done rather than blocking me and no response. I truly believe this man is a narcissist or something because when I tell you he was so controlling and needy…like he would accuse me of cheating all the time, hover over me, want to know where I was 24/7. If I didn’t answer the phone right away he would think I was up to something like all of that to literally nothing after 2 years of dating. I had my faults like I said, I wasn’t the best girl to him but he also wasn’t a man to me. So part of me wants to just know from a males perspective what does it mean if a guy does this? Does he have new supply, is he just trying to do no contact despite our issues we still said we loved each other so I don't know why I’m blocked and being ignored like I never existed. Is this just him trying to be petty or is he done? Why would he block me on everything but keep me on one watching my stories?
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Why did he block me on everything except one platform?
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Girl, I know this is super confusing and hurtful. Blocking you out of nowhere after all you've been through together is such a mess.
From a guy's perspective, it really does sound like this dude has some deep issues with controlling behavior and trust. Accusing you of cheating constantly is not normal or healthy.
It's totally possible he's acting out now by blocking you as a way to exercise power and manipulation. Like he's punishing you by threatening no contact even though you said you still cared for each other.
Keeping you on Snapchat is so he can still monitor your life and see what you're up to. It lets him potentially spy without you being able to respond. Definite narc/abusive vibes there.
I know it's hard, but you're honestly better off without someone who treats you that way in your life, no matter how intense the intimacy has been. You deserve so much more - real trust, communication and respect in a relationship.
My advice would be don't contact him anymore. He's shown you who he really is through his actions. It'll be difficult, but the best thing is to cut contact fully and move on. You've got your whole life ahead of you!
Stay strong - you don't need his BS. In time you'll see it was for the best to leave this unhealthy situation in the past. You've got this girl!
Somebody had to be the stronger one and put some finality into this situation, and in this case it’s as him. He’s probably thought better of the break because those core issues would still be there no matter what. Maybe he didn’t cover all his bases platform-wise when he did the blocking, but in any case I think it sends a very clear message — it’s over, and really needs to stay that way. You both know it.
I say don't worry about the how and why and just get rid of him for good.