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I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years, we went through a lot and marriage talk is on the table (we are early 30s). He has a female friend that he has known for many years, they don’t see each other often but I wonder if I’m paranoid. She is married with kids now but has always been “the cool girl who is accomplished”. He tried to move 3 times to her city (she has moved over the years for better career/family etc), convincing me it is a better option too (and they are in some ways). I felt he is comparing me to her. During one group dinner with friends, we talked about ring and he grabbed her hand to look at her ring, then told me how great of a pick it is. To add the cherry on top of everything, the waiter thought she was his wife when he came take our order (there were a table full of people and can be hard to tell). Since she is married I don’t think they are ever possible but it still makes me paranoid. She is cute but I think I’m better looking objectively, so I also don’t want to come off pathetic and jealous for no reason. Does he like her and should I address it?

I feel a bit like I’ve been scammed because my old guitar teacher just confused me a bit and wasn’t very clear how he was explaining stuff, then would get a bit annoyed if I took a guitar lesson off someone else, he’d say “you’ll just confuse yourself if you take lessons or advice off other people.. they don’t know the angle we’re coming from”. But then he’d say “there’s no secret to playing guitar, it’s just hard work and focus” but then he’d say “I’ll let you in on a secret that professional guitarists use…” so it seems like he contradicts himself and doesn’t explain stuff that well maybe.

It’s really weird because all his other students say how great he is and how he’s really helping them, but I don’t get that. He’s had some very successful guitarists as students and they all say he’s helped them… but what he says to me is all wishy washy nonsense or at least he doesn’t explain things very well. Then my college lecturer on my music class explains stuff and it all makes sense to me. I dunno, I feel a bit taken advantage of by that guitar teacher, like his quality of teaching was purposely bad so I’d get more lessons. I also feel a lot of anxiety when I pick up guitar now so it seems like getting lessons with him has lowered my self esteem somehow. I feel a bit like I’m going crazy but can’t pinpoint why.
and I don’t get why he chose ME to do this to? I’ve been told I’m fairly intelligent and learn things easily so maybe he feels threatened by that and wants to slow my progress down so I get more lessons? I also felt a lot of anxiety around him like he’s judging me harshly. He’d also say “I think you know more than you think you do” and he’d keep going over the same topics again… and claiming that I don’t fully understand basic stuff… I dunno 🤷🏼‍♀️