Why do I feel this sense of loss still?

[Anonymous]

Hi all! A year ago, I lost my ex partner of four years and my career. The ex was not a loss (which I came to later) but my career was a big loss. I worked hard for years and was dismissed on graduation day. I had job offers and it was just devastating. My parents are just so amazing for how they helped me through and remain strong that I was able to pick myself up apply to some programs (got rejected from them all) decided to do phlebotomy and it took awhile to my license and all but I ended up getting a job at my dream hospital with good pay at 37 an hour. I even found an amazing partner who listens and respects me. But I can't help keep thinking about my past career and how much money I would have made even though I'm only 20 dollars off or so. Any advice?

[AI Opinion]

It's natural to feel a lingering sense of loss for what might have been, especially after investing time and effort into your previous career. As you have clearly accomplished much since then—landing a rewarding job and finding a fulfilling relationship—focusing on present achievements can be helpful. Allow yourself to grieve the past but also make time to celebrate your new path. Reflect on the skills and experiences you've gained and recognize that they contribute to your current success. Finding peace with the past takes time; being patient and kind to yourself is crucial.

[exitseven]

I wanted to be a pilot in the Air Force. I had a ROTC scholarship but lost it after my freshmen year because I could not pass the eye test. I had to drop out of school and my whole life was derailed. I had to work a shitty sales job for a long time before I could dig myself out of that hole. I still get angry about it but I had a good career in IT and I am teaching computer science at a local college. I have a good life and I concentrate on that.