To start, I did a terrible thing. I'm a 31 year old female currently in a 9 year relationship with my fiance. The relationship has gotten stale and I see that our paths may not be aligning for a future together much longer. He wants to move away for work eventually I want to stay where I'm from.
Anyway, I posted in a Facebook group back in June and got a DM from a fellow member of the group. He is a 36 year old male. He had sent me something funny relating to the post i commented on in the group and from there we realized we had tons in common. The life he wants is the life I want. We've talked everyday since until yesterday when he said he felt like I wasn't doing anything to move on from my current situation and he was feeling like he was being used for convenience... I told him I understand. I just am so scared to leave my long term relationship..
Today I'm hating myself for what I've done. I miss him so much our chats... our memes we shared. We talked all night one night when my fiance was out of town, now I doubt he will ever message me again he said he wouldn't mind being my friend tho... I still love my fiance but I'm not sure if I feel IN love with him. I'm crying and a mess. I don't know what I expected to happen tho.
Has anyone dealt with anything similar? I know when the other man told me he liked me I should have just said I don't feel the same and move on. I know what I did was wrong. But I feel drawn to this other man in a way I can't explain. We've never met in real life he lives a ways away and I wouldn't meet another man while in a relationship.
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You did great and the smart thing!
Sorry it hurts so much!
Your morning what you wanted and your morning what IF!
Your sad about the dream you had not the guy!
Course you want things one want when they are not feeling or being as they should be with your relationship.
So many women choose the guy and then it goes bad and they have destroyed their long relationship 😔. No going back they just slowly settle for single mom kids and guys only wanting sex.
If your path with your current relationship end then you will be glad you let it and did not cheat and run of for what if!
Be proud you stayed and that you can still dream! You know where you want to be! Hope your fiancee sees this also your happy there and will hate any where else.
How have you tried slicing things up with him?
Cheaters are garbage. Leave him so he can find a decent human.
So you've ruined your 9 year relationship because of a man you've never even met?