I’m starting to like this guy I work with so much and it’s dangerous?

[Anonymous]

There’s a guy at my job. My first day he butted into my conversation with someone else and shook my hand and he comes up to my desk sometimes and will talk and told me about his backstory and leaned on my desk and was like “yeah I came from a company in Louisiana and the work environment there was toxic but I won an ( award ) so that was cool” and he said it casually. And he asked where I was from. He’s just playful and talks to everyone around the office but he seems softer with me. He’ll blush and smirk while talking to me. Sometimes he’ll ask me to do something or send an email but that’s because he’s in charge sometimes. Yesterday he sent me an email about something he wanted me to follow up on and at the bottom was like “let me know if you have any questions or concerns” which he never does in emails to other people. He’s a producer and the other day, came up to my desk and was like “I’m so stressed, Ally” And was kind of smirking and I was smirking back and told him “I know, you’re so busy.” And he was like “yeah” and was still kind of smirking and I was smirking and I was like “take a deep breath and relax” and I asked him how old he was and he was like “29” and was kind of smirking and somehow we got onto the topic of planes and be told me he’d never taken a plane until he got flown out to the job to visit. And two other guys joined our conversation and kind of hogged it lol. We have meetings to throw out ideas and I threw out an idea and my crush was like “that’s really interesting”. I have another colleague who always picks on me about not working hard enough and it’s annoying and the guy I like will always defend me. The annoying colleague was quizzing me after I asked him to and I got some of the stuff wrong and he kept quizzing me and being annoying and the guy I like was like “lay off of her” and they kind of got into it a little bit and then the annoying colleague kept calling out stuff and the guy I like was like “dude you’re giving me a headache”.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, girl, it sounds like you've got it bad for this guy at work! I can totally understand why - he seems to be going out of his way to talk to you, defend you, and just generally give you a lot of positive attention. The blushing, the smirking, the little personal touches in the emails - it's all classic signs of someone who's into you.

I gotta be real with you though, this kind of office romance can be really dangerous territory. Even if he is interested, getting involved with a coworker can get super messy, real fast. There's the potential for drama, awkwardness, and even jeopardizing your job if things go south.

I know it's tempting to pursue something, especially when he's showing you so much attention. But you gotta be really careful here. You don't wanna do anything that could backfire and put your work situation in jeopardy. Office romances can be a minefield.

My advice would be to try to keep things as professional as possible between you two. Don't flirt back too much, and definitely don't make any moves. Just be friendly, but maintain those boundaries. If he tries to take things further, you'll have to shut it down firmly.

I know that's not what you wanna hear, but trust me, it's for the best. Focus on killing it at your job instead. There are plenty of fish in the sea outside of work that you can pursue without risking your career.

Just be super careful, girl. I'd hate to see you get hurt or put in an awkward position because of this crush. Protect yourself first, yeah? Let me know if you need any other advice!

[Anonymous]

yes it’s dangerous