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I was always told this growing up. I used to believe women understand men better then vice versa. But not anymore.

I believe women understood men better in earlier times out of necessity. They used to depend more on men to provide and protect them. It was important for them to understand men they wanted to get in a relationship with vs. those to avoid.

But in modern times women seem far less concerned about understanding men. Not that I expect them to naturally understand that. But one thing they seem to struggle with is understanding the difference between likeability / attraction vs. respect. Men actually crave respect more then they crave sex, intimacy, etc.

It’s possible to still respect someone even think you don’t like them. It’s about understanding their situation and what they have to deal with. And truly men generally understand this concept far better then women do.

One example is when I broke up with my ex girlfriend. At that point I was no longer attracted her at all. Can’t say I liked her much either. But I still respected her. I knew about her struggles and dreams. That’s why I gave her the respect of sitting down and breaking up face to face. Endured 2 hours of hell (screaming, crying, etc.).

But I don’t regret it. I didn’t fixate on her flaws and chastise her over grudges and things I didn’t like about her to self justify my decision (I’ve had women do that to me when I was dumped). I had enough respect for her that would just add insult to injury.

Women expect marriage. They expect a guy to take a huge risk on them. Because in a divorce the man loses EVERYTHING. Kids, wife, house, the money he has built. The kids always side with the mum. We lose. All a man’s ambitions and goals in the hands of a woman. Yet we live in a patriarchy?


Not only that women demand full freedom. Women are naturally manipulative and cry to trick the guy into doing things their way. Nowadays women don’t date/commit unless they get everything their way, they aren’t agreeable. I have dated I know, I have a girlfriend. They challenge everything and refuse to just compromise where it doesn’t benefit them. Women are stubborn.

So as men we either stay single or accept this generation of women because we don’t want to be alone.
Because they’re all like this to varying degrees. My girlfriend is on the nicer end but still she just won’t be fair on a couple things and I am so logical about everything.

My girlfriend isn’t a virgin it used to bother me she’s had full sex with a few guys, but I don’t care now as she’s only my girlfriend.

But imagine your wife right, imagine you’re gonna call that girl your wife and she’s done that. Like she let other men inside of her and was begging and screaming for them.

I don’t know how any guy can get married. I’m defo gonna sign a prenup to feel like even if she leaves me I’m unaffected and didn’t lose anything.

Dating for a gen Z male is really hard for most. Girls live on social media and seek perfection. Good looks, tall, in shape, rich, smart, enormousD

I might have all those things and more - but it still is a kill joy because it’s not a game any man can truly win at. The game is unplayable because you can’t be the number #1 guy in every metric. How are men judged on 50 things…. What are women judged on?

👉 You might think well normal guys get girls. That doesn’t mean the girls really want them in an ideal world. Normal men are settled for. You would have to live knowing that you aren’t what a girl really wants. That if she could have more she would.

I have a girlfriend and I tick all the boxes and she’s really nice and even then she loves all this shallow stuff about me. It’s nice and makes me feel sad like All these things that shouldn’t really matter, that don’t even make a good guy. But this is how shallow and immature girls are…

Sometimes I do think it is better to be alone. But then how do you progress in life without having kids.