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This year I decided to move in with my Grandma and cousins. All my cousins are the same age, we grew up together and get along well. One of my cousins has a best friend who we see regularly and I grew quite fond of him. I had pushed my feelings to the side for a while but as our conversations with each other grew more frequent, my feelings grew. So one day, I confessed and he has also admitted to liking me too for a while.

We talked/flirted heavily with each other for like the first week after we confessed. We're both hopeless romantics, both fell hard and talked about a future together. However, he wanted to tell his best friend (my cousin) what was going on first before taking things further. Needless to say, things didn't go well. There's a 'rule' that my cousin's friends shouldn't go for close family and vice versa because in simple terms, it would complicate things. Also, I found out that this guy has a lot of issues in the romance dept and has led girls on in the past and his ex is kinda still in the picture (I've heard this from my cousins) there's a toxic pattern which he has never learned from apparently😭 He has told me that after talking to my cousin, he realised he wasn't ready to date despite his eagerness before. So we ended things on good terms and stopped talking. He's also not going to visit us as regularly.

Its been a week and my heart is SO heavy. I miss him so much. I grieve the future we could have had together cause I've literally never clicked with someone so fast.

I've talked to other close family about it and they think its none of my cousin's business, also dont understand why we can't figure things out together and believe my cousin is being manipulative. But my cousin would know his friend best right? There's also that bro code. I dont wanna ruin a close friendship.

But I don't know, should I text him? I miss talking to him, but it might further complicate an already fragile situation. Help?

So this is the same guy from my last post, I’ll just start by saying both of us have a massive ego and a lot of pride esp when it comes to texting first.

He works in a fast food shop where I’m a regular customer at. Anyways recently he started ignoring my texts (he told me he doesn’t make time for people that don’t make time for him as I wasn’t meeting him outside work) so I stopped messaging him, he barely messages me first unless it’s to tell me to sneak out of the shop to meet him for a little while as his boss doesn’t allow us to talk. That’s what’s so confusing he can sound so cold and uninterested but will literally risk his job just to see me for a little bit. Needless to say, we haven’t texted in 3 weeks (and I’ve not gone to his shop during this time either) since I stopped messaging first.

i haven’t met him outside work although he’s asked to see me , due to our schedules not being compatible and every time he asked to see me he was inviting me over to his place but it’s like he never wants to talk over text and doesn’t seem interested (over text) . Thing is though he gets so jealous when other guys hit on me and he always stares at me and when we have phone calls he’s so sweet and different.
I sometimes wonder if he’s trying to use reverse psychology to get with me or just trying to get in my pants. However if it was sex he wanted why would he still be talking to me 6 months later when he hasn’t gotten anything sexual from me and I’ve told him I’m waiting until marriage.

He always asks me to come chill at his place and said he’d cook for me and we could watch a movie or something but I don’t go to his place as I don’t want to get used for sex and I can’t tell if that his intention or not. Thing is he works night shifts and sleeps through the day or when he’s free I have classes so that’s really only the option he has but I still think if a guy really likes you he will make time.

Please be brutally honest so I can save myself the heartbreak.