Does this guy who’s married want a side chick?

[Anonymous]

Id like opinions- so I was reconnecting with a guy friend, we didn’t talk for a few years when he moved away. Long story short he knew I liked him, didn’t feel the same although told his friends that I would be a great girlfriend and he wanted to sleep with me (he doesn’t know I know this).

This time he said he happy to be friends and we were talking for a few weeks about our lives etc, he would reply really fast etc, show interest and wanted to know my dating situation BUT when I made a joke about being single he then says he’s married…. I feel stupid for thinking he was single but he gave the impression he was.
To be clear he lives in a whole other state so no chance that anything would happen anyway, but now I feel like I can’t even talk to him any more…why did he pretend to be single and not just mention it earlier when we got a bit flirty? Or maybe I should’ve asked I guess? Is he just attracted/wants an ego boost etc, is this normal behaviour?

[Guy13]

You are tapping into the fallen nature of men even when things are good he can not help but to do evil.

[Asker]

Most men or men like him? Does it seem like he wants to do something bad?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this is a common thing for men who are unhappy in their relationship, just selfish or both. I saw a guy on here just the other day who said he had 10+ Affairs and his wife had no clue, he said it was better that way. Other men come on here too talking about infidelity and not wanting to tell their wives. It’s actually quite sad.

[Asker]

Ohh that’s so bad, doesn’t surprise me though unfortunately. So you think that’s what this guy wants really?

[Opinion Owner]

It really is just horrible. As for the guy, it’s hard to know his intentions. Like on one hand he did tell his friend he wanted to sleep with you, but for some guys it’s just gossip and they don’t actually intend to follow through with it. I do feel like it’s lame for him not to have mentioned being literally married but that speaks a lot to the state of their relationship, maybe they aren’t happy right now or he just isn’t a very faithful partner. In any case I’m sure you’re disappointed or feeling some type of way but you really dodged a bullet.

[Asker]

Yeah I was a bit stunned for sure, but I’ve always known the type of guy he was tbh and my gut told me something was a bit off. Put it this way I wouldn’t trust him as far as I could throw him. Thanks for your answer :)

[Asker]

Oh and I asked him how married life was going and he replied ‘it’s not too bad’…whatever that means

[Opinion Owner]

No worries! You made the right choice stepping back from that. Even for him to say married life isn’t too bad, that’s like dismissive. He gives red flag vibes for sure