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Sorry, I posted this question earlier but didn’t really put any context in it.

I have a crush on a coworker. We have a flirty relationship and we get on really well. We have been there for each other through difficult times. He has shown mild jealousy at times and is affectionate outside of work when we’ve had a few drinks. He was the one who organised my birthday presents and card (for my 30th)

Recently, on a night out, I admitted to him that I like him more than a friend. I asked him if he felt the same way and he kept saying “you’re a lovely person”. When I asked him to answer the question, he said “yes I do” and sounded annoyed.

He was hot and cold with me at work after that but things have gone back to normal. In fact, when I was on holiday, one of our coworkers asked if he misses me and he said straight away “it’s very quiet”

Today, we were just chatting and it was just the two of us. I said to him “well you clearly hate me a lot” to which he said “yes…. immensely”

I’ve heard guys say the opposite of what they really mean when teasing. Was this him saying that he likes me?

Recently I caught my boyfriend calling and texting a woman of his caste and I'm not of his caste. He told me he was frustrated with me that's why he went behind my back despite us patching up post 24 hrs breakup always. Now I asked the girl if they slept and she said that she met him on bumble and she said that he was asking for casual sex and nothing serious to which she said no. He said me that he was sorry to get distracted and that it naturally happened. He bdw blocks me badly whenever we fight instead of resolving. I love him but he was never romantic and never did anything special for me. Many times I felt he took me for granted but since we are together since 2 years in this relationship I have lots of feelings for him and he apologised to me that he is devoted to me and will never get distracted. Whenever I miss him and I cry to him, he never cries or gets emotional to have missed me if we haven't met him for many days. But he said me that whenever he was distracted after he broke up with me for like 24 hours, he said me that he tried to find me in another woman always and then he missed me and always came back to me. I have never ever broken up with him ever. ( We always patched up after 24 hrs by resolving post him breaking up with me many times) I don't really know if he is completely loyal to me because of this. I trust his words that he is loyal to me but him telling me that I should love him more when he gets distracted make me wonder if he really loves me or not.