I recently hooked up with a guy that I’ve really liked for a while, we’ve been friends for a few months and finally crossed the line into doing something more. However he made me leave his place right after as his room mate was coming back that night.
I then didn’t hear from him for several days and felt like I shouldn't text him first I didn't want to seem to keen as he said he didn't want anything super serious and as he kicked me out i thought i would wait for him message.
After 3 days of no communication we saw each other in person and we had a brief chat, he was working so it wasn't that long, but i felt like we needed to clear the air and get on the same page. I texted him the day after and asked why he hadn’t messaged, he said he had been sick and had been in his head a lot the last few days and that he didn't think he was in the right place for anything casual. I agreed and said i’d been overthinking as well and said i couldn't do just sex or anything super casual to which he said at least we knew know it wouldn't work. I did also say that my reason for not messaging was dur to him kicking me out, i didn't think he would have wanted me to.
i still like him and feel like we just miscommunicated on what we wanted, should i wait or just move on
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What I would recommend is working out why you care to ask this question. Since it reflects where your at with regards to this connection.
I will comment generally though:
So, guys who are hooking up for casual sex, are basically either creeps or psycopaths. Sorry.
They disconnects sex from any true intimacy or emotion (simply seeking pleasure, and consider the pleasure givers as 'throw away') and unless your one of the rare women who don't want or like attachments to anyone (and I'm still not convinced even those women are 'real'. vs just care more about getting hot men over forming attachments to any one man) you maybe should have avoided him from the start (and I know guys like this seem amazing when you meet them, its what they do, they convince women they are worth sleeping with then either move on, or keep the woman as a sex partner for convinent sex without strings). They can turn on the charm like a tap.
It doesn't sound to me like you miscommunicated, but it does sound like you hoped this guy was something he wasn't. You just need to decide why you care, and I recommend IF you care, move on and find someone who wil care for you not just a hook up.
Then, that is my opinion, and what matters here is what you want. You didn't misscommunicate, but I do think you might have mislead yoursself.