Search Results: looking older than i am

The nerd: reads tons of books and talks about video games and movies. isn't very masculine. Kind of awkward but sweet.

The chad: hyper masculine. Tall with a large strong structure. Square jaw. Is into traditional masculine things such as sports, cars, and drinking with his buddies. Highly successful in his career. Has a high body count with lots of dating options.

The boy next door: nice looking, but more in an endearing, rather than sexually kind of way. Not tall, not short. Has long dark hair. Is kind and a bit mysterious. Genuine. He works carpentry and has a passion for custom woodworking, has a love for coffee, nature, and hanging with his dog.

The beta: the nice guy who you are not very attracted to but feel safe with. He gives you emotional support and cherishes the ground you step on. He's financially stable and don't worry about him cheating.

The sugar daddy: the old rich guy who you exchange sex for money. Purely transactional. He travels you around the world, takes you to the finest restaurants in the city and buys you nice things.

The starving artist: could be a sculptor, a guitarist, an actor, etc. Has talent but yet to be discovered big time. He is interesting and fun, but broke. He works a low wage job while hoping for his future. You have feelings for him, but have uncertainty.

It is heavily implied (and even outright stated) in society that women supposedly understand men more than vice versa. However the older I get the more that’s a giant myth.

Women might understand men’s sexual impulses and know how to attract (and often manipulate) men with their feminine wiles. That is if they are able to do so. Mother Nature isn’t exactly fair to all women when it comes to who fares better via genetic lottery vs who doesn’t when it comes to looks in itself.

However I truly believe most women fail to understand that what most men want is to be respected by women. Respect is not the same thing as attraction. They often go hand in hand but not always. There are people in this world I don’t find attractive and/or dislike. But they have attributes I can respect..

For example I have more than once come across some loudmouth aggressive overweight women. I know they are loud (and often bullying) out of frustration & insecurity.

However I’ve met a few them who were very driven and self responsible in their career fields. They know they can’t rely on their looks to get by on life. Instead they were forced to work hard to get by the same way a man is expected to work hard. That I can respect despite often not liking their personalities.

Anyway what many women fail to understand is the root of most (non pathological) misogyny in modern society is just the overall disrespect men perceive from women. It’s not sexual frustration. It’s about respect.

Men can naturally sense real respect vs passive disrespect (usually goes behind a fake smile)

If women naturally understood how men crave respect then:

• Modern feminists would shut up about 95% of the crap they spew (yes they really do hate men unless a man agrees with them and/or they find him attractive).
• Women would understand what a deep insult the friéndzone truly is
• Gold diggers & freeloaders would find nothing “cute” in bs they do
• Ghosters would feel much more guilt.

It's me again. Newly unemployed as of a week ago. I was laid off from a well-paying job again. In fact, my resume is looking like shit. I have held 6 jobs in 3 years. Employers are just tossing my application in the trash now.

I am 28 years old and still live with my mom. I have never had a real girlfriend. I haven't even so much kissed a girl in over 8 years now. Women aren't attracted to me.

All my former friends are married with kids. I have lost touch with all of them, and I am trying to reestablish a social life, which is still almost nonexistent. I am making a tiny bit of progress, which something is at least better than nothing I guess.

Despite not having a girlfriend, a wife, and a family of my own, I at least tried to excel in my career. Even that has been a complete failure.

Overall, I am just about a complete failure as a person. If I had to grade my progress in life on an A to F scale, right now I am a D-, and even that is generous.