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There’s been this school that I’ve been trying to get a job at for almost as long as I was at the last school I worked for ( 2 years?). This is a recruiter I dealt with before & I’ll start with saying I finally got the gig. The application process was always tedious: indeed apply, questionnaire that can probably add up to about a paragraph, interview with recruiter (this guy) and finally panel interview w/ hiring team. The furthest I made it over a yr ago was to that panel interview & got that rejection email, every other time after they’d send the questionnaire & I got a rejection email shortly after. Well this time around, I made it to the panel interview, was told this was the last step & then am told they want to meet me one last time to ask questions to gauge my experience & my expectations were very low but tried my best and guess it worked out this time around.

This time when I first met with the recruiter, he just went on almost an hr talking about company culture and kind of tested me too. At one point he said he wanted to hear from me because “he felt like he was doing most of the talking”. Every time he’d give info or give an order he’d always end with that *reassuring* “okay” & it kinda threw me off at times. He did warn me when we first met that he thinks the hiring team would want to meet with me and they did. Yesterday, he calls me to tell me that they extended an offer & I told him I wanted to move fwd but needed to let them know I had a NYE event scheduled after I met with them & wanted to make sure it wouldn’t be an issue. And he said I threw him a curveball, I didn’t do anything wrong but he wanted me to speak with the hiring mgr before moving fwd bc he didn’t want to speak for them. He said it should be fine but that curveball comment threw me off. You know when you just feel like someone may be reading you wrong? I come across maybe as too reserved to him but I answer “okay” and asked questions to show interest almost every time.

For context, I moved out at 24 & owned a condo for 3 years. Moved back in with family fall 2022 & decided to go that route bc of the housing market & just wanting to save up. Plus I had a crappy neighbor that made me want to sell and ironically enough moved out shortly after, I still went ahead and sold because no guarantee a new neighbor would’ve been better. I have a bit of a nest egg from selling my old place but it’s locked away in a cd & trying to be smart. I feel like I should have some more shame/be more down with my life (how society would see it) but maybe I know I would’ve felt worse if I was still living with family & have NEVER lived on my own. Or am I lying to myself? Is living on your own then moving back with parents at 29 the same kind of shame vs living with them at 29 & having never lived on your own? Lastly, have a bachelor’s degree + own my car/only high debt is student loans ~9K, just naming positives 😶