I’ve turned into a stalker since we broke up?

[Anonymous]

So I’m facing my first real break up, of someone I still truly love. He kinda ditched me out of no where and it’s been 6 months with almost no contact. 3 months after the split I messaged him and he rang and shouted at me, so since then I haven’t bothered. I’m assuming he’s moving on and it is killing me. I dream about him every night, I am having broken sleep, I have no sexual desires anymore, I feel hungry but can’t eat, I have been off work sick for nearly the 3 months since I last reached out. I am walking around like a zombie and he is just on my mind 24/7. I can’t concentrate, I can’t watch tv, I can’t even go out with friends as I zone out of conversations. I’m not fun, I haven’t laughed or genuinely smiled since he left me. I have a holiday booked to Ibiza on Monday, and I won’t be going. I have fell behind of house work, and I have found myself daily walking or driving up his road for hours in the hopes I’ll see him and he’ll want me back. I know this is unhealthy and I have told myself I won’t do it again. How long will I feel like this, I know time is a healer but it’s just passing that time that is the problem

[Anonymous]

Don't feel bad. If I lived in my now ex city, I would probably be doing the same thing.

[Anonymous]

That's normal I've actually stalked all of my exs.

[Asker]

That’s reassuring. How long does the desire to do this last

[Opinion Owner]

Depending on how well you bonded with them, it can last a few months or even years. It is awful. I wish that I wasn't so obsessive; it would make life a lot easier as I wouldn't be consumed by them. 8 months ago we last spoke, and I still find myself crying over them, wishing I never messed up what we had. My trouble was that I became so attached and then came the jealousy because I didn't want him to talk to other females.

[Anonymous]

that’s natural. I’m sorry to hear about all this.

[Asker]

Even the passing his road constantly? I mean I close but going past his is the long way which I would never usually do, but have found myself adding time onto a journey daily just to pass his house

[Asker]

Afterwards I’m glad I didn’t actually see him, becus he’d think I’m a physco but at the time it seems a good idea

[Opinion Owner]

Why don’t you contact him and see if he can fix this? Take him out to dinner pay for the dinner apologize do whatever it takes.

[Opinion Owner]

I mean if you can fix this

[Anonymous]

Why u love him

[MasterKS]

why women are so fool?