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When I see my girlfriend I feel love and attraction. But I also feel anxious. Like very anxious.

When I do things I enjoy by myself, or with most other people, they feel more fulfilling. As my girlfriend usually judges them as teen stuff, and she doesn't really seem to enjoy most of them. She's just there passing time.

This doesn't seem with specific things, but most things. She seems to like activities where you are passive, rather than active. And social rather than creative.

Paradoxically she also seems to dislike engaging with most people, where I like to exchange with persons of all kinds. She likes to live more isolated, and I like to find my neighbors and talk with them.

She loses most friendships where I have very long term friendships. She says I only have friends because there are friends from school.

The bad part about this is that my girlfriend usually want to drive me away from the things that I like and enjoy most. Even from my work, she finds it unappealing where I'm highly passionate about it. It looks rather a lack of an appeal for everything that is not just buying stuff, dining out, and cleaning the house.

So it has reached a point that being away from her makes me feel good, and being with her makes me feel like I'm selling my life cheap. That I should completely change myself to be as this woman wanted, and that is exactly the opposite of what I enjoy.