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So my bf’s been in a bad mood for a while now, he gets pissed at the little things that I do. I’ve been giving him space and distancing myself from him, I don’t bother him anymore other than just to have a quick chat sending funny videos, I don’t talk about my problems with him bcs he has a lot to deal with already, I even keep quiet and learned to take the punches he throws at me (not literally, emotional punches) and brush it off as him having an off day.

Earlier he got annoyed because I asked him a question about how his day was and he said that I’m being insensitive and annoying. I said “it was just a question, no need to be aggressive please”. Then he went to work, he then sent me a bunch of texts consisting of long paragraphs detailing my mistakes.

He does this a lot and usually I would respond with me explaining myself and how he took my actions the wrong way, I also always apologize and promise to do better. But then he would blow up and start an argument, he would also say “let’s drop this” and I’d say “okay let’s” but then he would proceed with prolonging the argument all over again… I know his pattern and I’m not gonna play along with it anymore so I simply said “Okay, I understand” and left it at that.

He then texted me back saying that he doesn’t believe me and that he needs reassurance that I won’t annoy him again. I just said “Trust me, I understand what you’re saying, I hear you”. Then he said “k.” I know he’s pissed when he responds with that. But I didn’t bother responding after that.

Did I do the right thing or was I being rude? I just don’t want him to weaponize my words to start another argument so I kept it simple and straightforward. Plus he already painted me as the bad guy anyway…

I find myself at the center of gossip from other women (who over interpret every little thing I do and twist it to suit their narrative, try to find me flaws, spread rumours to isolate me at work, try to isolate me, smear campaign, illegal recording, hacking into my google account etc) and of stalkerish males.

The repeating element in all of this is me at the center of this mess. My usual go-to is to ignore, smile and get away as fast as I can while pretending not to notice to not start any fight.

What should I do if this keeps reoccuring? This has to be a life lesson, right? So does that mean I am supposed to act differently and if so, how?

PS: it does not have to do with my CHOSEN relationships, these are people I did not select and who just try to get in. So this is not an issue of me needing to surround myself with better people. This has to do with me attracting weirdos.