Now I've met someone that is serious. I'm panicking. Is this normal?

[lilyanony1]

I think for a long time because I never got the things I truly needed or wanted. I learned to talk the talk and not believe it. Every disappointment just came along to reiterate that I wasn't quite good enough or I just wasn't destined for that path.
But now I've met someone who's trying to make it seem like all of these things could actually be a reality, I'm panicking and waiting for the penny to drop.
It's suddenly made me realise that I haven't really thought any of these things through. Not really in the context of me. And it's making me really vulnerable...
I feel really unsure of myself.
It's a strange thing to think this but worse to say it out loud. "there was comfort in knowing my life was just made up of constant disappointments."
Is there something I should be doing or asking from him?

[OlderAndWiser]

With your history, the reaction seems rather normal. You owe him the duty of candor, and you should tell him how you are feeling. Then you should ask for one indulgence: you need things to progress slowly so that you become more comfortable before it gets more serious.

[lilyanony1]

I think he knows. I've tried to be as honest as I can. Even in the beginning I told him he may be the nicest guy I've ever dated. But I was clear that I didn't want him to keep telling me how beautiful I was during sex. I felt really exposed and vulnerable.
It was too much. But it also felt calculated. (my trust issues)

[lilyanony1]

Contrived was the right word. I doubted myself. 😔 Something I've been doing since we started dating

[RealMarek]

Congratulations (probably). Take things gradually and allow consistency to help build trust. If you find a man who is trustworthy and good to you and if you are good to him too, it will be a wonderful experience.

[RoseySarah]

Yeah it's normal did the same with my hubby before taking time and slowly gaining trust!

Make them gain that trust slowly don't give them anything for free

[lilyanony1]

Thank you Rosey that's really good advice. I'm glad you met a good one. 😊

[RoseySarah]

Thank you!
Hoping you met some one amazing for you!

Follow and message me when you have worries you wanna vent about!

😊

[Surely]

I have found that you need to learn to love and believe in yourself first!
Then you will be more open to believe in and love someone else.
Well wishes to you.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah, it's normal. This does happen.

[DizzyDesii]

Just let it flow

[ThrillSeeker01]

Just be yourself.

[Hulk30]

no not at all