I can't give all details one of them being your sanity and mine. But please read the whole thing I don't want to have to quote myself back to comments.
So little bg info for basically my whole life I've been severely depressed. I had a breakthrough recently maybe a month ago? And have been relatively stable and not so depressed anymore.
Okay so for at least 4 years I've know this guy and when I met him I was into this other due (we never actually became a thing but not important) and severely depressed like I said.
Recently after calling out guy on something he said it started to slowly unravel in my brain. And I did some reading and have realized I've misread or ignored a lot, this guy has actually been flirting with me for like the entire time he's known me. Quite shocking for me. I was dismissed his behavior and the things he said or didn't understand. But looking back is pretty obvious.
And I had dismissed any feelings/attraction I had at the time on hormones for several reasons.
Now this guys gives off red flags and green flags. He talks a lot of negativity on people in commited relationships. Other people who know him better say he was just burned by someone, something happened? And to be fair it does low key come off as jealousy.
But it seems like our dynamic is very important to him beyond that of just flirting like he wants me to know he respects me. It would seem odd to me that he would be so persistent (not in a aggressive way per se but like trying to feel me out but I was always very shut down) and for it to just be nothing.
Since being more open and engaging some low key flirting back the dynamic has shifted in a postive way.
But so my question is after 4 years of this would this just be something he treats casually or is it something more srs? And this isn't a guy who's doesn't have women interested in him this is very much a fact I'm aware of. I'm interested either way right now but I want to be prepared for whatever I guess.
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