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As a guy, I've lived this. Ever since I was 12 I always had negative thoughts of myself, making me retreat, keep to myself, and away from anything hardly ever feeling like i mattered to much of anyone.. never went to a friends house. Hell, I hardly even went outside at all. I have been mostly very withdrawn socially ever since, so it just surprises me if any woman, would actually be okay with that and still like to be in a relationship with him

The way I see it, most women want the kind of guy that is sociable, strong minded, and outgoing, which i believe usually makes the woman a lot more honestly attracted to him, because I just feel like most women want a singular type of guy, and wouldn't be able to stand being in a relationship with a guy that isn't what they dream of or want. Especially if he is some shy quiet depressed guy, and I really doubt most women would actually want to help their boyfriend out of being depressed because it would be another pity party they wouldn't want to be invited to. But I kinda can't blame them. Because it's tough being with someone depressed you'd love to enjoy happy moments with them but trying to pull them through their depression and helping them realize that there are and can be better days ahead takes a lot of effort, and persistence. But what I also realize better days, better things and better relationships come because of the effort and persistence from people that care enough to help things be better.

I feel like a couple usually never stay happy together if only one of them is honestly willing to be there for them

Not too long ago I went on date for the hell of it with a young woman I had very little physical attraction for. But I treated her well, bought her drinks, engaged in a good conversation and even drove her back to her place.

After some discussion she made a very insulting comment about my haircut a few moments after I dropped her off. Taken aback and pissed off I just said “well fuck you & have a good night” and left. I did nothing to provoke her. I didn’t hit on her.

The next day I sent her a DM saying “that haircut comment was mean”. She responded “you know what you are completely right. You did absolutely nothing to deserve it. I don’t know what the hell is wrong with me”. She then proceeded to literally beg to me (not exaggerating) to go on a second date. She kept going off on how cute I was & everything else.

I told her I felt better that she apologized but I declined. I wished her the best.

I later asked myself (and should have asked her) would she have apologized if she did not find me attractive? I highly doubt it. Her apology wasn’t truly genuine because there was still something in it for her.

The world isn’t fair. It’s obviously easier to mistreat people who are of little or no value to you. It’s like seeing a homeless person. There is virtually nothing they can do for you (and they can be annoying or even dangerous). But would you do something nice for them and do it discreetly (not for optics)?

It is just in my experience especially with dating is that women have a harder time respecting men they don’t find value in.

To a limited extent I can understand they don’t want to give the guy the wrong idea. But once a woman determines a man is of little use to her she feels like it’s okay to disrespect him much more then vice versa

I have been in the reverse position a few times. I won’t bend over backwards for those women. But I won’t ghost or disrespect them either. I will politely turn them down.

I think most women might think guys don't have boundaries at all, or if they do its unhealthy ones. or they fake having boundaries but if a girl actually says yes to dating them they drop em all out of desperation.

So if thats the case does it actually shock you to meet a guy who not only has healthy boundaries but actually holds them firmly with few exceptions?

And guys if you want to answer, whats been your experience dating a woman with your boundaries? do you get positive or negative reactions?