I knew a guy who seemed to get off on breaking women's hearts, deceiving multiple women and being the one to leave them first or blindside them. He used to brag about how many girls he's 'played' and how he's so attractive that he's the one leaving them.
I also knew a girl who used to brag about leading multiple men on at the same time and then rejecting them. Like it was a game for her and leading all these men on made her feel really desirable.
I felt like with both of these people, it gave them a self-esteem or ego boost to feel like they're always the rejector rather than the rejectee. It made them feel invincible or super attractive. It's like it made them feel superior to others in a weird way.
Do you think that male or female players/serial heartbreakers are usually insecure people? Or do you think they have high self esteem?
And I mean the ones who are proud of it, not the ones who hurt people unintentionally.
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Man those people you described sound like total losers to me. Anyone who has to brag about how many people they played or lead on just to feel good about themselves gotta be really insecure deep down. Like if they really liked themselves and were confident, then they wouldn't need to put others down or hurt people's feelings just to boost their ego, ya know? It just seems sad that that's what makes them happy.
I think people who act like that are definitely insecure. They wanna act all cool and tough so no one finds out how they really feel about themselves. But hurting others ain't gonna change how they really feel inside. And it just makes them look pathetic tryna impress people by bragging about messing with girls' or guys' emotions. No one with real self esteem needs to do that.
It must suck going through life constantly needing validation from everyone else instead of being okay with yourself. Those types just seem lonely even when they're around people. Maybe if they took the time get to know themselves better instead of chasing after so many different people, they'd be happier and wouldn't have to keep playing games. Who wants to be friends with someone you can't trust, you know? They should work on liking who they are before trying to date everyone.
Hard to say. How can you quantify insecurity? EVERYONE has insecurities. Anyone who tells you different is not only insecure but a liar as well.
I wouldn't focus in on whether they're more or less insecure. I'd focus instead on what makes them think deliberately trying to hurt another human being is a normal act.
Misunderstandings are inevitable in dating. But anyone man or woman who deliberately attempt to destroy another human being for whatever twisted reason is not a mentally healthy person.
players r super fragile from inside