Why do girls choose the worst guys?

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I feel like I always lose my faith in humanity when I meet a new woman I swear. So I had a blind date with a girl who’s friends with my girlfriend’s friend. And I was really into her. I was trying my best. But then I noticed she was really self centered. Like ignoring me at times, so I felt less like trying to talk to her. Anyways, we were gonna to head to another place from that bar. But this guy who used to talk sh! t to my friend and I saw us. And he wanted to buy us shots because he felt bad. We accepted it of course lol. And here comes my blind date trying to join us. I saw she was instantly into him. So then I realized she was dead to me. Anyways, she tried to get another round of tequila shots, and I tried to warn her that it’s super strong. But she insisted on doing it. We did the second round. And of course she left shot. So I ended up being the one to drink it. Anyways, I left the bar, and saw she gave him her number as I was out there with my friends. I told my friend about what happened, and he said he’s sorry. And that he only came to hangout with me, so it made me feel better. Anyways, as we were carpooling together. My friend mentioned that he roid use. And she tried defending him. But my friend and I didn’t say anything because he’s known for using steroids. Anyways, I left as fast as I could, as soon as the night was over. Worst time wasted ever! I expected better things, because my friend’s girl is sweet and caring. But that was like the opposite in her. It’s her loss, I guess lol. At least I don’t have kids and sleep with random women like that guy does. I also make more. But I don’t care, I wouldn’t want her nowadays.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm going to give my two cents and I really don't care if any girl or woman gets offended because females today feel like they can get away with anything they want about guys. I read a story last month that disgusted me, it was about a young woman who stabbed a young man who she met off Tinder and the judicial system only gave her community service. That's just one incident, there are many others I can name. The same way, rich, influential, powerful men can abuse their power. Problem is, the average Jill female who has no status, no power, can abuse it by pulling her "Im a female card" to cops, to judges, to lawyers, to doctors, to politicians. I have all been about accountability both sides, I'm not favouring one over the other because it's a female. If females want equality, they have a brain and hands and feet just like a man.

Now going to the question -- Girls and women make bad decisions based on the culture/environment today. Feminism is a toxic culture that teaches females to act like idiots, to embrace being a bitch (im sorry for the language). A girl can have an absent father, where she doesn't trust men. If a girl is reading this -- if you are wasting your time watching stupid reality shows featuring superficial women, you are texting dumb girls about sleeping around or fooling around with other guys. You watch stupid shows and stupid movies, you are what you eat and you are what you watch. Therefore, if there are girls and women out there who enjoy drama and abuse, there's the answer of why women and girls pick the worst guys.

Guys should hold a standard for themselves choosing a female, but he should work on being the best version of himself and picking someone special, to be the mother of his children and a loving/caring/supportive wife. Girls and women nowadays aren't supportive, they seem superficial and stubborn and don't care about supporting a man or guy because feminism teaches that males are trash and supporting a husband is like supporting a baby. It's different if a woman works 5 days a wk while a guy or man is at home playing video games. It's another if a girl or woman has to sacrifice for her kids so that the guy or man can be the bread winner with his job, a sense of communication but also compromise. This isn't a male rant hating on females. I brought up communication and if im with a girl and she's like I want to pursue my Masters degree to get in X-career, i'll support it.

But I see the negative influence of social media, I see many girls today are followers and the music industry is a satanic industry where you have half naked women literally being submissive to someone dressed as the devil. Women don't know their value today, a lot of them are lost souls. Women assume they can be like men but eventually they will tire themselves out and want to be the house mom that takes care of her responsibilities in her house.

Girls and women go after the worst guys because that's what she's used to, that toxic way of life. It becomes a manifestation and internally destroys her inside. There are a lot of great guys out there who are single and sad. If any girl reads this and thinks ohhh boo hoo! I don't care! Stop being a worthless simp! That goes to show how heartless and immature a girl are and can't see a good guy. Women and girls complain and talk to their girlfriends on the phone of "I can't find a good guy". God made women with beauty, God made men with the beauty of their words. Yes, women tend to be more beautiful and attractive. But I think if a guy is average but has a big heart, focused on his life/career and wants to be the best father and husband that makes him a 10 and he can make himself be above average, what's wrong with that ladies?

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

My theory about this is the following:

Attractive young women are used to having everyone kiss their asses so an asshole unfortunately intrigues them. This has to do with challenge.
Women have a cat like attraction to challenge. They want the challenge of “fixing” a man.
Women mistake an asshole’s aggression as masculine energy. It’s actually masked deep insecurity but they can’t tell the difference like other men can
Worst of all society continues to give women a shoulder to cry on for their own shitty decisions. You want to date an asshole? Fine. Go right ahead. But it’s on you when (not “if” but when) he screws you over.

The last part is what I have a biggest problem with. I have zero sympathy whatsoever when women decide to dive head first into a dark pit like they are powerless over their own decision making. Women are supposed to be empowered right? Capable of having just as good if not better judgment skills than men, right? Isn’t that what feminism argues? So why are they treated with kid gloves when they make shitty dating decisions?

I know some guys can be sneaky but there are almost always huge warning signs women ignore because they “have feelings” for the asshole. Then when the inevitable happens they turn into poor helpless victims and society keeps on giving them sympathy which needs to stop.

If society treated women with the same indifference as it treats men who get burned then we would see far fewer women repeating these mistakes. It would be a one time hard lesson and she would then have to face her own judgment. It would force her to make better future decisions. It would also disincentivize asshole men to quit treating women like trash. But when they keep getting rewarded for it?

Anyway not all women are that self destructively stupid. The ones that were raised by good fathers usually make better decisions. But the father has been downgraded in western society and this is insidious side effect of all this.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

I don't think women deserve this bad rep from one bad blind date exp lol. I can honestly say literally all the guys my friendsss wanted me to give a chance to who expressed interest and set up have gone super bad. The thing is to our friends.. this may be a "good person" or "good friend" but it does not mean they're a good equivalent to a good partner or simply a bad match. But sorry to hear you had a bad date night... even if she wasn't interested, she sounded pretty rude and it's her loss. There's still a ton of great girls out there! :)

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Because there are so many of them. The odds are you are going to have to date a few before you find one that is decent.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I am sure you know you all have your own demons, it’s just “bad guys” don’t hide it.

Avicenna · Answer

sometimes it's because they think they can fix them

aceleon · Answer

At least I don’t have kids and sleep with random women like that guy does: so? having kids is a bad thing now? and sleeping with random woman too? what kind of female fictional world you think you live in? he is getting pussy and doesn2t have to deal with anyone's shit, you on the other hand?

I also make more. But I don’t care: appearantly you do. and worse you think making more money than him means a shit which sorry to tell you but doesn't, he is able to attract woman without showing off his money, his money is not even a thought for woman they don't care, they simply get interested in HİM, with you on the other hand with this insecure mindset who tries to show off his money to feel better than him will bound to get woman who wants your money, tolerates your presence and use that money to buy lingerie for the guys like him behind your back.

also you are not any better than the guy you mention, appearantly you have an inferiority complex and materialistic and insecure to the point of only having your money to feel better about yourself.

i am not saying she is not a hoe, she probably is iamnot defending her in any case, i am saying your mindset is shit maybe not as shitty as her but still shit.

lightbulb27 · Answer

you have some learning to do... about female behavior, yourself, and attraction...

female mating hormones and emotions and emotional maturity is the answer. It's all well understood. you have to resonate with her either in lust or love.

They other guy may have player skills. He projects what her resonates with her hormones... masculine confidence. in essence, he's communicating an energy of what her chick brain wants to hear. did you convey to her how you desire filling her chasm with your swollen manhood? if you are too 'nice', and I suspect that's part of it, she shot you down in 2 seconds.

not hard to figure out but you have to learn and grow up. he will get to bang her as that's what her crotch desires, maybe make more kids. she will likely regret it once the mood changes and it switches to emotional suffering of lack of support, unless she can snag him. and the story of human chaos continues from there. Welcome to humanity...

need starting points, lmk.

Anonymous · Answer

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Miristheiss · Answer

Relying too much on emotions and how she feels, some bad boy who will F her and then leave her makes her "feel" things, excitement, tingles and she completely shuts off her reason and intellect and wisdom. Having an emotion based being makes major decisions off emotions/feelings more often than a reason based being.

That is why dad's will know some guy is no good and tell her she can't see him but her feelings are all stoked and she'll run of and disobey her family and get pregnant and left by the player.

tremendousfern · Answer

>But then I noticed she was really self centered. Like ignoring me at times, so I felt less like trying to talk to her

This should have tipped you off. If you go on a date and she isn't showing interest, immediately end it. It doesn't matter how much you're into her, she's not into you so you're wasting your time and money. You don't have to be rude about it, but the date needs to end immediately. Tell her something like: "Thanks for coming out, but you two don't seem compatible and you should probably head your separate ways now." Then you can spend the rest of the night doing what you want instead of a bad experience like yours.

SotiCoto · Answer

Girls have crap taste in guys.

It is a sad state of affairs, but they do.
Just think... Almost everyone has a friend who is a decent, cool and upstanding bloke... but he doesn't have a girlfriend, maybe never did, and there doesn't seem to be any sane reason for it. Then there are all these balding old geezers, hideous monstrosities and outright monsters walking around with girlfriends on their arms... and you just think: "What the hell was she thinking?"But that is just how it is. And those same girlfriends end up being physically or psychologically abused by their boyfriends or otherwise stuck in the single mother zone... and it keeps happening, and there isn't much to be done about it.

Kelley1 · Answer

Of course she chose him. He is hotter. You don't measure up to your better. Like most girls, she choose the best guy for dating. The problem is the best guys she can date are out of her league. They will date her for sex but they will not marry her because for marriage they can do better.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

There is a cycle to life and it is actually very simple.

Good girls love bad guys because they want the challenge of being able to change us. Then they realise once they get their hearts broken they want the good guys, BUT and here is the twist. They might be contented with good guys but they are never truly fulfilled, so they flit back and forth.

Of course that is a total generalisation, but one I have encountered many times before.

Anonymous · Answer

The incels who claim to be "nice guys" promote "Nazism" "taking women's rights away, so they are depended on men", they are "homicidal and suicidal", "they want state mandated girlfriend "and they don't seek a therapist or go to college because they think it's "feminism or the left-wing indoctrination". They act bitter and pathetic when they don't get the woman they want.

You're saying these men who get women are the "worst guys" and you are the "nice guy", how?

gayesblog · Answer

Girls may choose "the worst guys" due to a variety of complex reasons, including low self-esteem, the allure of a challenge, or the belief they can change a partner.

And also societal pressures, past traumas, or a lack of healthy relationship models can distort perceptions of what constitutes a good partner, leading to harmful choices...

Glideess · Answer

Physical attraction is very important even if people don't admit it, it's basically a prerequisite for anything else to happen. Since it was a blind date, there's a decent chance she just wasn't interested the the get-go, even before you shared a word together. Women can be pretty brutal when it comes to dating and shameless when it comes to 'discarding' guys they aren't attracted to and going for guys they like. Of course, a nice girl wouldn't have done what happened to you, but a lot would. I'm not saying it's your fault or that what happened to you doesn't suck, but women can be very callous when it comes to dating, or even hookups.

Katebfun · Answer

Everyone is broken. I was on a date with a man, who felt like home to me. Then you realize that version of "home" is usually not the type of attachment you want. Like an absent father who was not there for you growing up. People usually like and or attract those who are like their parents the good and bad qualities.

jshm2 · Answer

They don't. Which is why they are not choosing judgmental dullards like you.

What you are forgetting is it's your opinion only that they are "bad" relationships. They get value out of them, but don't stick around when the value is gone.

A lot of these "good" relationships you see are probably a lot worse. But the woman/man is too scared to speak out and break up so puts on a happy front.

mstbooblover · Answer

When girls choose bad guys, it has probably something to do with an old and partially outdated instinct. The bad guy shows more self confidence, seems a good deal to survive in whatever way, is agressive, will seem a better protector and defender of his female, etc. A very primitive and primal instinct not compatible with a civilized society, which does not mean that every big strong guy would be a bad one, and that's where intelligence interferes on behalf of both genders ;0)

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

So, he makes less money than you, but is somehow more successful with women than you. So, your competitive play is basically to come off as a sugar daddy? If a man that you think is below you happens to be more successful with women, then you should reevaluate what you think women want.

Not meaning to backtrack though, why would you bring a friend along to a date? Were you not confident enough to be alone with her?

strateguy632 · Answer

they want adventure, or think a rough guy will protect them more, but won't say that, then learn he is rough also to her.

or she plans to change the tough guy but learns people already have their personality do not change.

Anonymous · Answer

Women, especially women with poor male, or absent male role models growing up are typically very poor decision makers when it comes to judging quality men. These women tend to choose the best liars rather than the best men. Which isn't in itself bad so long as the liar does not have sleezy motives. But of course people that lie tend to be of bad character as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are not the best judges of character even though they think they are. They often see only what they want to see and then are so shocked when they finally accept what was staring them in the face to begin with.

I don't know how much truth there is to this, but I recently heard a woman say this!:

" Men marry who they want; women marry who they can".

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