Debate: Is being a sex escort more beneficial to a woman than marriage?

Question

Rumor has it that women do not benefit from marriage the way men do. Women in marriage: Take on the emotional burden of a man, expected to maintain their bodies, have children, take care of the children, cook, clean, work, give their husband emotional support, womens health declines due to overwhelming task, while their husband's are majority 90% unfaithful.  Men in marriage: are expected to work and care for the family yet still complain. They're a lot healthier because they have little to no duties thanks to their wives. Their wives encourage them to see a doctor, cook, clean, work. Men get overweight yet still not judged by their wives. Sex escorts: recieve high financial gains for their services. Not obligated to marry , have kids, cook , clean, and emotional health is fine. Unmarried men: poor health, more responsibilities, less money due to financial obligations without wife, no emotional supoort.

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

"Women in marriage: Take on the emotional burden of a man, expected to maintain their bodies, have children, take care of the children, cook, clean, work, give their husband emotional support, womens health declines due to overwhelming task, while their husband's are majority 90% unfaithful."

Your evidence? Statistics show women initiate 80% of divorces. And the most common "reason" is "Irreconcilable Differences" - a bullshit term meaning "Unable to have a series of adult conversations"

"Men in marriage: are expected to work and care for the family yet still complain. They're a lot healthier because they have little to no duties thanks to their wives. Their wives encourage them to see a doctor, cook, clean, work. Men get overweight yet still not judged by their wives."

If it's a single income family the man is expected to just keep going. 60-70 hour work week. With a 50/50 odds he'll lose his family to divorce. 80% of homeless are men. As are 80% of suicides. Men on average live just 5 years after retirement and have higher rates of terminal illnesses caused and perpetuated by stress. And trust me, if a married man gains weight his wife judges him.

"Unmarried men: poor health, more responsibilities, less money due to financial obligations without wife, no emotional support."

Health issues remain. Fewer responsibilities if he's not a father. More money and financial stability if he's never been married.

"Emotional support" is a two way street in a healthy marriage.

"Sex escorts: recieve high financial gains for their services. Not obligated to marry , have kids, cook , clean, and emotional health is fine."

Russian roulette with physical health from STI issues. Vast majority don't make a lot of money. Massively disproportionate number are addicts of at least two drugs because sex "work" drains the life from them emotionally. "Not obligated" actually becomes "totally undesirable" very quickly. 99.9% of men won't consider marrying a literal whore because of the number of guys she's opened her legs for. And it's got nothing to do with worrying about comparisons.

Every human being needs to cook and clean.

So no, being a prostitute is not more beneficial to a woman than marriage. Unless being a dead junkie is your idea of a benefit.

RandomUser1000 · Accepted Answer

Ideally it should benefit both.
It's on a case by case basis who benefit most or if it's about the same.

"Sex escorts: recieve high financial gains for their services. ... and emotional health is fine."

I think it's common for prostitutes to not have the best mental and emotional health.

Maybe some are truly happy with it. But for most women (and men) it's probably not a good idea to aim for.

Some people have fairly equal relationships where they share chores and such.
But then they usually both work.

Traditional relationships where the man is the provider and the woman takes a bigger responsibility for taking care of the children and the household can have advantages to.
A lot of people doesn't love their jobs and being able to spend more time with your kids while they are young can be a benefit to.

Most things have pros and cons and what works the best is different for different people.

But for most people, becoming a prostitute is probably a bad idea unless it's your only option.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Whats so good about being used by desperate men just to make a couple bucks? Then again i guess some desperate women are known for using men for financial gain as well. Gold diggers suck but sex escorts suck more. Pun intended. ain't nothing cute or beneficial about being a hoe

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

Marriage done right is extremely beneficial to both parties. People who do not meet the requirements to do marriage as it should be done simply should not get married. And sure, pay as well get paid for your services in that case

Summeroflove · Answer

A HEALTHY marriage supports both. There are extremely one sided marriages that men and women are in.

Being a sex worker is about the worst job a woman can have. Most are on drugs, drink, and many end up in a early grave. Overdoses, murder, suicide, and the list goes on. It’s a horrible lifestyle nobody should live. Unless you’re a low life degenerate

JacobJordan · Answer

When 2 genuinely good people get married it benefits both. When a man marries a western woman he typically ends up single, missing half his money and no kids. Now let's go over what a healthy marriage looks like. My wife has access to more funds than most women will ever see in their life. I have built her a house and have added an addition and am building a second floor on it. She wants for nothing, we both take care of each other and ourselves. She refuses to be overweight. I couldn't be overweight if I tried (I have tried) we have 3 wonderful children who also will want for nothing in life. We go on regular dates, and vacations. I cook for her, massage her, brush and braid her hair. When she was pregnant I would carry her to and from the bathroom, help her get her shoes on and off.

Oh yeah and only 20% of men are unfaithful just so you know not 90%. That being said being a sex escort is definitely a good idea especially for women with nothing to offer. Best part is when they get older and no one wants to pay them for sex anymore they are then left with whatever money they managed to acquire, no kids, no man, and will spend the next 40 or so years alone. Yeah it really isn't worth being a whore when you consider the long term ramifications. Much easier to just find a good man and stay married.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

There may be a few women who would find that life as a prostitute appeals to them but not many.
Not sure where you get your data points for defining a marriage but I’d say you probably need to find a better class of people. They sound equal parts miserable and selfish.

Marriage is a partnership and, at least in my life, we share the burden of life’s demands and chores. I do as much housework as my wife does. She works as do I and there are even parts of the housework that we agree are each others specific jurisdiction. I’m the cook in our family and yet I haven’t done a load of laundry in a decade. She manages the finances and I work extra hours to make more if we need it. I absolutely maintain my fitness and am still the same waist size I was when we met. She is a very fit person too but that’s who she was before I ever met her - there’s no external pressure from me. I would not be as successful in life without her. She has thanked me often for being there to support her. Could she make more in life as a sex worker? Abso-freaking-loutely. She’s beautiful and would fin no shortage of customers. Is that what she wants for her life? No. She and I have spoken many times that the life we’ve built together is far beyond what we ever thought we could have in life. This is far more normal in life than the world of marriage you describe.

I think you just need to find the right person and perhaps drift into a different social circle.

Anonymous · Answer

The "rumors" you're talking about are based on outdated and very flawed studies that don't account for the realities of today's marriage for men and women. Mrriage today is very different than marriage of the past. Those studies looked at people married for a long time (i. e., successful marriges) to measure things like long-term health and longevity, so by necessity they looked mostly at older couples. In other words, couples who had been married for a long time and were married during an era in which marriage was very different and far more beneficial to men than it is now.

Also, and this is very important, ALL of thse studies grouped dicorced men in the unmarried group, so men whose wives had married an divorced them, with all or the horrible consuences of that, were not considered as part of the married group.

Half of marriges today end in divorce, and women are responsible for the vast majoruty (80%) of them. You cannot evaluate the effects of mariage on a mans life and health without also considering the effects of divorce.

Thos studies are obviously extremely misleading.

DextroShade · Answer

Sex workers will get a lot of money, but fast money comes with slow problems. Sex work is sort of like being an athlete in that you age out of being able to do fairly quickly and no man who is worth a damn wants to wife up a 40 year-old whore who is diseased, entitled, and has zero ability to pair-bond. They inevitably end up like Chelsea Handler desperately screaming about how "happy" they are while they wake up every morning and chug vodka and down pills before they die alone and get eaten by their pets.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would say marriage can benefit both if you lay a good foundation. For instance it´s no law of nature that a woman has to do all around the house or that guys are supposed to have no responsibilities concerning what happens at home. But aside from that I would question if a sex escort actually has a fine emotional mental health since no guy that meets comes because of her but to have sex with her. Sure that can also happen in a marriage but in which scenario is it more likely?

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Everything in context... There's probably 7 figure escorts out there that love their job, there's also ones that are trafficked abused etc

McKenzie Besos made out pretty well w a marriage, a lot of women dont. But then factor the non financial aspects, love, passions, sex, stress, etc... completely different case by case.

boggboss · Answer

You guys understanding of marriage always makes me giggle whoever are u people marrying where are u living that this is normal it can't be current day unless you are marrying retards

Anonymous · Answer

escorting only works if your hot and young, and also happen to work with people that are nice and won't rape you, trap you into a sex trafficking ring, or take your money, provided your clients are also nice to you, pay you and dont hurt you. which all together is unlikely. if you have a good guy that actually treats you well and loves you, marriage won't be bad. even a mid marriage is better than escorting. if you want money just become rich yourself or marry rich

Grond21 · Answer

Considering that the happiest women are ALWAYS monogamous married women, as a category, and considering that women in sex work have inordinately high instances or depression, anxiety, BPD, and drug use, it seems quite clear that marriage is best. Any story to the contrary is just that, a story.

loveslongnails · Answer

That depends on what she wants. Is she evaluating the financial benefits alone? Does she have any moral issues about it? Does she prefer not being in a relationship? If I knew what she wanted, I could better answer the question, but I'm certain many people will say selling oneself for sex is never beneficial if you're a woman.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

I know enough good marriages that are beneficial for both partners (including my parents‘), so I always assumed  that  to be the norm. It requires a certain amount of maturity on both sides, though.

normalice · Answer

Being an escort could maybe work until the age of 25 or so but then things will get substantially harder.

Apple1996 · Answer

Definitely being a good girl (good wife) gets women no where in life. Marriage was made for men to get wives as their slaves

exitseven · Answer

I suspect that escorts have a very limited shelf life. After that who knows?

FenixG45 · Answer

If you believe only men benefit from marriage, then you should marry me. You'll be in for a surprise treat!

Anonymous · Answer

Marriage benefits no one Divorce benefits me

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You have a warped veiw of marriage.

laly520 · Answer

no its not never will

Anonymous · Answer

A good marriage benefits both equally.

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