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Hi everyone, I would like to share what I have experienced in Europe to spread some awareness, even though some of u guys may have already experienced this. I went to the UK two months back for my month long university overseas immersion program. After that I met with my parents to embark on our extended European tour by joining a tour group. One day on a road trip from France, our bus stopped over at a rest and relax stop. What caught my attention was the long queue forming outside of the ladies, with many women eagerly waiting for their turn to use the toilet. However, as I went to the gents, I saw a middle aged lady used my toilet and I presumed she did not ask the men in the toilet for permission to use, since I did not hear her ask. I understand she is urgent but I would appreciate if she respects basic social etiquette to at least ask. Moreover the toilet is designated for males not her, and it’s only polite to ask. This applies for men as well, if their toilets are full, they should ask the ladies before using their toilet. But that is not the case. At a McDonald’s restaurant in Germany, I saw an old women waiting outside the gents but left shortly after. I brushed it off thinking she could have queued at the wrong toilet. However as I entered there is a single occupied cubicle and I waited for my turn, a person hesitated to came out but still came out later. It was later known to be a young lady who just came out like no one’s business. I am also sure that the ladies isn’t full. At Palace of Versailles in Paris, France, the same situation happened where at least 50 ladies queued to use the toilet. However, a small handful still did the shameless act of barging into our toilet without seeking permission, presumably some of those men still peeing at the urinals at that moment. This is a clear violation of privacy and a breach of social etiquette. It seems like those women do not have basic courtesy taught to them by their parents since young and it irks me.

Okay, so..
This is the context and then situation:
I'm going to school, I currently hang with a bunch of girls in class (hot, smart ones). Outside of class I know most people by name (~80p) and have talked on shallow levels. I am applying myself as a support-role to most and give/reccieve respect from many, I have high social status and reccieve lots of attention from girls and guys. The common way where girls can be picky don't really apply as I am the sought after and they are chasing.

Contrary to popular belief, I am not very experienced with girls at all, though I am well versed in bodylanguage and used to networking friends and analysing social group-dynamics. I am used to navigating crowds and leading with respect, care, well-meaning, long-term intention. When you give respect without judging you also reccive it, which adds up and twists in positive rumors.
I am not a "white knight", but I am also not a bystander, I speak up for my views and call out people without making a scene.

The situation:
So in my friendgroup, well there's no girls that ain't orbiters (friendzoned) right now but I really like this one girl in group, she likes me too, she's really a great balance between ratiinality and intuity, she's really smart and mature, we're both extroverts and naturally flirty so it went on well at first then I found out she has a boyfriend.

I appologized (outed myself as an admirer) and reverted to friendzone because I am trying to be principled (maybe not to a fault). Which she obviously said she appreciated and denied even noticing (obvi) and then we just went on being great, playful friends, knowing we're just being natural. But since then she's been brushing up beside me (forcing skin-contact) at the gym and while studying.