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Violation of basic social etiquette?

Hi everyone, I would like to share what I have experienced in Europe to spread some awareness, even though some of u guys may have already experienced this. I went to the UK two months back for my month long university overseas immersion program. After that I met with my parents to embark on our extended European tour by joining a tour group. One day on a road trip from France, our bus stopped over at a rest and relax stop. What caught my attention was the long queue forming outside of the ladies, with many women eagerly waiting for their turn to use the toilet. However, as I went to the gents, I saw a middle aged lady used my toilet and I presumed she did not ask the men in the toilet for permission to use, since I did not hear her ask. I understand she is urgent but I would appreciate if she respects basic social etiquette to at least ask. Moreover the toilet is designated for males not her, and it’s only polite to ask. This applies for men as well, if their toilets are full, they should ask the ladies before using their toilet. But that is not the case. At a McDonald’s restaurant in Germany, I saw an old women waiting outside the gents but left shortly after. I brushed it off thinking she could have queued at the wrong toilet. However as I entered there is a single occupied cubicle and I waited for my turn, a person hesitated to came out but still came out later. It was later known to be a young lady who just came out like no one’s business. I am also sure that the ladies isn’t full. At Palace of Versailles in Paris, France, the same situation happened where at least 50 ladies queued to use the toilet. However, a small handful still did the shameless act of barging into our toilet without seeking permission, presumably some of those men still peeing at the urinals at that moment. This is a clear violation of privacy and a breach of social etiquette. It seems like those women do not have basic courtesy taught to them by their parents since young and it irks me.
As a guy I have experienced the situation of women barging into my restroom
As a girl I have experienced the situation of men barging into my restroom
Based on my assumption and observation, this won’t happen to me as a female as society is more unforgiving to men using the ladies as compared to ladies using the gents
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To add on, what shocks me is that as a Singaporean I have never seen such incidents before. That’s why when I witnessed this first hand overseas I am obviously very shocked and disgusted for a few reasons. Firstly, I am puzzled as to what embolden those females to have that guts to just walk into the gents without asking, with complete disregard to those guys’ feelings. Some could even be peeing at the urinal and a few ladies just walk in, so imagine the embarrassment they faced.
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They only put their needs as their first priority, and don’t care about the consequences like trespassing.
Secondly, what irks me is that those men including those peeing at the urinals did nothing to intervene such a shameless and barbaric act. One uncle started complaining and asked another man why ladies are using our toilet, unexpectedly, he explained by saying the ladies are full, making me feel that he is defending them. Being urgent doesn’t give u to right to barge into our restroom.
Violation of basic social etiquette?
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