Search Results: i want him to be honest with me

I’ve noticed tyst if you aren’t saying you just want sex or you want to be in a relationship, there’s a lot of sleig View like it’s a game or something. in my opinion if you say you want to get to know someone— it’s the most honest way of communicating.

Unless you really are just looking for sex, how does anyone know if they want to date a person let alone be in a relationship with them if they do 🤷🏻‍♀️ if you still feel the need to get better acquainted I don’t see the problem.

It is funny how propaganda works bc I know when people say this to me I can still hear it as a euphemism for sex BUT only bc people will use it that way & not bc I think there’s anything inherently wrong with _really_ just wanting to get to know someone.

I’m never on the hunt for a boyfriend so if I meet someone I want to get to know better that’s all I know I can honestly say. And I think that should be good.

people don’t take it well it’s as if I’m letting them down easy or being deceptive.

Seriously what more can you ask of a person lol “ I’m interested in getting to know you better.” I think this is much better than jumping into boxes just bc for no particular reason..

Of course if someone knows they want to date then go for it— It’s just not my approach and I find it funny wanting to get to know someone is Suspect 😂

1. We’re not talking about someone who is uninterested bc a lot of people just don’t have the guts to directly say NO. It sucks, but Fair enough.

2. There are indeed a lot of people who get off on mutually playing mind games with each other so we’re not discussing them either.

We’re discussing scenario # 3. Two people LIKE each other but one is being direct and the other refuses. Won’t or can’t, I don't know.

I think with most people without being a genius or even particularly clever, you can very easily infer that when a person is being open & honest & direct, they don’t want to play games & doing so will most likely turn them off towards the other person…

SO I have difficulty understanding in this instance, what the ‘other person’ finds advantageous about being secretive, and why they may insist on it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I see it _alot_ in other pol as well I’ve experienced it first hand. I’ve never found any explanations after the fact - when they were offered- to really make sense, and they seemed more of an attempt at damage control than “ coming clean”

so I’m wondering if there’s some kind of unconscious work at play..

Assuming they are not jerks, Perhaps these people are simply not good at acting deliberately so even little things seem burdensome and they are reluctant to respond even if doing so could be beneficial, I don't know?