so basically i have a good friend of mine who i started dating about 2 months ago. things were going great till we had a dif on something so we were taking a small break. we were starting to get back to where we were and she completely blindsided me.
i haven't spoken to her for a week and she reached out to me yesterday and asked me if i wanted to meet for a drink. like an idiot i said yes but it was more so because i wanted to see if she was going to address anything, apologize, explain things etc... well she didn't however i can tell something was on her mind. things were cool but she eventually asked me why i hadn't called or texted her over the last week. i really didn't feel like talking about it and didn't want to start drama at the bar so i just said been busy with work and helping my mom out who just had shoulder surgery. my question is do i text her and say hey you want to get coffee one day this week so we can talk about why i didn't text you all week. would the following be justified for me to bring up
1) after 14 years of friendship for you to call me a liar and not trust me when I've been nothing but open and honest with you really hurts. also calling me a piece of shit with everything i have done for you and how I've always been there for you really sucked
2) i got blindsided because she said she hated me because i lied. the lie i apparently told her was i was moving to goto medical school but went into real estate. she has known what I've done for almost 5 years, when she said i told her was 8.5 years ago. also even if i did is it really that big of a deal, people change career paths all the time. if you get so upset over something so stupid im concerned about whats going to happen when there is something worth getting upset about.
3) our issue was because im demisexual and because im a virgin by choice she was mad and unsure about things. i found out from mutual friends at a bar we went to a lot when she was thinking she was there with another guy,
What Girls Said
That bitch is toxic!!! Run as far away as you can from her, she’s crazy!!!
i know im not interested in pursuing anything with her i just need to get how i feel of her chest and as friends i want to her to understand how much she actually hurt me. like i didn't even finish point 3 because of word count but on top of her being there with another guy while she's thinking about things i was told she was telling people i was affraid to touch her. I don't know about you but i have a big issue when people bring up personal stuff to people who have no business knowing said things. she's told me a lot of personal shit way worse over 14 years and I've never told a soul. its like im racking my brain trying to figure out if i blew things, if i can save things and your here with another guy getting touchy feely airing out my personal stuff? to me that shows how little you care about me
If you want to get things of your chest and tell her how you feel then I’d send a text message or video of yourself explaining how you feel and how much she made you feel like shit, send it then block her number and ghost her.
I don't know I've always been raised with the belief you have conversations like that in person. also with our history i feel like i owe her that. and thats probably why i shouldn't pursue anything because im sure she dosent have the same respect that i do. its also very concerning to me that she would ask why i haven't texted her in a week. like im pretty surprised you can't figure out the reason for yourself either that or your trying to dodge it because you know exactly why
Yeah but the problem with face to face conversations is that she could discreetly have a voice recorder and if you say anything nasty or anything where she can twist your words to give a false perspective she will use it against you and make things ten times worse. I know girls like that and all the shit they do, best to ghost them honestly.
yea i hear ya, its just tough when the person is someone youve know for 14 years and not some rando you met at the bar or on an app etc... it kind of just makes things dif. i still can't believe the other night she looked at me with a strait face and asked why i haven't texted her all week.