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Hi I’m new to GAG this is my first question being posted. My girlfriend rarely wants to have sex. We have even less sex than old couples. 95% of the time she wants to cuddle without sex. I’ve tried talking to her and she always come up with excuses one after another. So in this question I’m going to share with you her excuses and why I’m frustrated.

• 1. Is that we don’t spend enough time together: I've been trying to spend all my spare time with her. Now I’m over at her house almost every day to a point where people think I live there. Nothing changed!
• 2. Is my work schedule: I used to work evenings and she’d complain that I come to her house too late and she’s tired. I switched to morning shifts 3 months ago. Nothing changed!
• 3. I don’t do enough around her house: For example, she wants me to clean her house and do repairs. I try to clean up all her messes. I’ve even learnt a few carpentry skills to repair her house. Nothing Changed!
• 4. Her work is too stressful:Now she says we can only have sex on our days off because her job is stressful and she needs to sleep after work!

Now she’s telling that sex doesn’t interest her and she can live without sex. Funny that she says that because, she one time dated 2 guys at once. This was like 8 years ago.

Her best friend told me she used to come to her crying because her exe boyfriend never wanted to have sex with her. And how she went and got relationship counselling.

I’m wondering if I should stay or if I should break up with her. I’m also wondering if she’s cheating. Can this be fixed? Let me know in the comments🙂

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/judge-matthew-kacsmaryk-christian-radio-abortion_n_64420b98e4b04997b570a368#
Judge Who Ruled Against Abortion Pill Didn’t Disclose Christian Radio Appearances: CNN

The federal judge who suspended the Food and Drug Administration’s approval of an abortion pill failed to disclose two interviews on a Christian radio show where he discussed his extremist views on contraception and gay rights, CNN reported Thursday.
U. S. District Judge Matthew Kacsmaryk, a Trump appointee, invalidated the FDA’s approval of mifepristone earlier this month, using the language of anti-abortion activists in his ruling. He was confirmed to a lifetime appointment in 2019 by the Senate and was required at the time to submit a detailed account of his previous writings and public appearances.

But CNN uncovered two appearances on a radio show called “Chosen Generation” from 2014 while he was working as deputy general counsel at a religious liberty advocacy group called First Liberty Institute. In one interview from February 2014, Kacsmaryk was asked about the “homosexual agenda,” agreeing with the host that those opposed to same-sex marriage could be viewed as “hostile” enemies of the federal government and saying the nation had adopted “very permissive” policies on contraception.
In another appearance that July, he said religious organizations could face difficulty for opposing “the new sexual orthodoxy” on gay rights.

There is a negative stereotype that men are slower to grow up and mature when it comes to how they treat the opposite gender.

Personally I know I think and react differently towards women in general compared to how I was in my teens and early 20s. I am more careful about the comments I make, refrain better from starring too long (if she’s attractive), I communicate better if I am interested or not, I make better thought out decisions and I handle rejection better (and reject others better) compared to the younger version of myself

I also know most women hate the feeling of “being used and/or lied to for sex.” If it’s a hook up or fling I’ll be open about my true intentions even if it costs me want. Not to say I was a liar when I was younger. But years ago I would stay tight lipped if I just wanted one thing when the other girl was thinking we would get in a relationship. In retrospect I recognize that was wrong. Nowadays I don’t give false hope.

That of course doesn’t mean I’m perfect. I will continue to make mistakes. However I am more cognizant of how the other gender thinks now. I also am less likely to get caught off guard if a bad gut sense about something.

With that said I’ve have unfortunately encountered a lot of grown ass women in their 30s and even older that still show blatant immaturity. The worse example is how some of them still play dumb if a guy is interested (and woman isn’t) to exploit the friéndzone for attention and benefits.

I would think a grown woman would know better than to do that. It’s not a sex issue but a respect issue. The guy has only so much time, resources and patience to stick his neck out.

He can handle rejection but being friendzoned is extremely insulting. He will usually figure it out faster than a young man and when he does he will feel exploited.

Just meeting older woman who still believe in this crap is insane.