Is boyfriend cheating?

[Angeleyez76]

We haven't had sex in over a month when we use to all the time. I bring him to work and pick him I can't send to see how he would have the time however wen I went threw his history I seen many dating sites what could be going on I spoke to him and he gets all mad at me and says he don't know how it got there please I don't understand he don't have sex with me anymore and it's cold towards me we barely even talk been together 12 years what do you think could be happening?

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say for certain whether your boyfriend is cheating without more information about your specific circumstances and interactions with him. However, the fact that he is behaving differently towards you, has stopped having sex with you, and has dating sites in his browsing history could be cause for concern.

It's important to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about your concerns and to ask him directly about the dating sites in his browsing history. While it's possible that he may have a reasonable explanation for the sites, it's important to trust your instincts and to prioritize your own well-being.

If you're feeling uncertain or uncomfortable in the relationship, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend or counselor who can provide guidance and perspective. Remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and understanding in all relationships, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being above all else.

[Angeleyez76]

Wow thank you so much for everything you said and you couldn't be more right I have tried to talk to him and he gets all mad and defensive which I believe is another sigh the only thing is how you would find the time because I bring in the work in the morning and I pick him up when he comes home and every day it's the same time unless he doesn't really go to work unless he leaves after I drop them off I don't know I don't know other than that he's always just in the room sleeping or watching TV does not conversate with me nothing dead I told him I don't like it I tell him how I feel I cry a lot not for pity but because what the f*** you know pardon my Italian I just I don't want to live like this anymore shouldn't have went threw his phone but I don't want to waste my time I have on this Earth if I'm just being used for free housing etc

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome but it sounds like you're going through a really difficult time, and I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so unsure and hurt. It's understandable that you're feeling frustrated and upset with your boyfriend's behavior, especially if he's being defensive and dismissive when you try to talk to him about your concerns.

At this point, it may be worth considering some tough questions about the relationship and whether it's still healthy for you. The fact that you're feeling used for free housing, and that your boyfriend is being so distant and uncommunicative, suggests that there may be deeper issues at play here.

If you do decide to end the relationship, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. You deserve to be with someone who treats you with respect and kindness, and who is willing to put in the effort to make the relationship work.

If you're not quite ready to end things, it may be helpful to seek out the support of a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and communicate more effectively with your partner. Either way, know that you are not alone, and that there are resources and support available to help you through this difficult time.

[Opinion Owner]

Wjat I mentioned, those are certainly some warning signs that suggest he may be. The fact that you haven't had sex in over a month, and that he's being cold and distant towards you, could be indicative of infidelity.

Additionally, the fact that you found dating site history on his computer raises some red flags. While it's possible that he simply forgot to clear his browsing history or that it was a mistake, it's also possible that he's actively looking for other partners.

[Opinion Owner]

What

[Angeleyez76]

Boy I wish you were a counselor lol you are so more then right I can't thank you enough not only for you put a smile but helped me in more ways you will ever know

[Opinion Owner]

You’re so welcome, I try the best I could and nah I’m good just as I am looking to help others in need of questioning and comfort,

[slatyb]

How many children do you have at home?

[Angeleyez76]

I have 1 little girl at home she's 11 she autistic he's her dad it's not cuz her cuz he never had this problem before days he don't think about it he funny know why how do you not know why you phone someone and care nothing about how they feel or when they cry so heartless I know bottom line I should get rid of him but 12 years vested is a long time I just didn't want to throw it away however I very all the time I'm just not happy I know he's depressed also we been threw so much this past year but this all a sudden started in Feb 3 was the last time we did anything at all I just don't get it off on outside with my dog go got a walk ride etc he don't even come anymore he stays home and we live with my dad so it's not like he can bring chicks over I'm just so confused I don't want to just throw it away but I'm not getting any were either I don't know what to do been too counseling it don't work I'm so lost so lonley

[Angeleyez76]

Sorry I needed to just vent so sorry

[Rainofsac]

He very well could be, or at least thinking about it. Dating apps aren’t a problem if an agreement hasn’t been arranged to label your relationship because some people like to keep options open while searching for the one, but since you two are what seems to be exclusive, he could be thinking about pulling away or already has. Never settle for a man who isn’t honest with you and can’t have a sit down discussion about what they’re going through.

[Angeleyez76]

Thank you so much you are so right. Why is it so hard even though he treats me like I don't exist

[Angeleyez76]

You are absolutely correct it just started happening this past February all of a sudden everything just stopped these he could be going through his own stuff but why and then your history why have Facebook dating You know they mean and that's what Bob is me and then he says it was from a long time ago I've been with him 12 years I mean either way you look at it he's doing something wrong why would he be on Facebook dating yet I'm always with him except when he's working I mean unless he lies and he leaves work and hops on both of them and picks him up cuz other than that he doesn't drive I bring him to work I pick him up some work I don't know I'm so confused I cram my eyes out everyday waste of the energy that is just not needed I'm 46 and I just don't want to keep going if there's nothing worth going ahead for I feel like I'm being used even though we have a daughter together he was with me rent free I mean who would not stay I just don't know I talked to him about it and he gets mad and defensive so I can't talk about it that's not a relationship I know I just didn't want to throw 12 years away and my daughter's dad you know thank you so much I mean you gave me the best advice and I appreciate that thank you

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he is cheating on you , my ex pulled this shit with me , just stopped wanting to have sex with me and stopped showing me affection only when I did something for her like I was being rewarded with a little kiss or a hug and she told me she still loved me , it was a load of shit , she loved the convenience of me and didn’t want to hurt my feelings apparently , because we been together for so long , but when I started piecing things together and my gut instincts knew something was off , I busted her cheating on me with a co worker , so if your boyfriend is denying you sex you are best to kick him to the curb where he belongs cuz he is clearly playing you , I will not be with a girl that constantly makes excuses not to want intimacy and affection with me anymore unless she has a valid reason why , if it’s not a valid reason I am going to go fuck someone else and end it with her period , When someone loves you they don’t make excuses , so don’t fall for
Your boyfriends shit cuz he is the piece of shit period

[Angeleyez76]

Lol I like you and thank you, you couldn't be more right and it's not like it was boring I mean I love everything it was him so quick didn't last more than 5 minutes I never cheated I never went astray so I don't understand why he would want to embarrass himself anyway by just being a five minute f*** don't care if the girl orgasms or not so that's all he ever did 12 years of that s*** and then all of a sudden two months ago everything just stops I don't know I'm not going to waste my f****** time on him anymore because I'm not ugly so I can get I can get it's not about that I just didn't want to throw something away that I invested 12 years in I'm not materialistic I don't ask him for anything all I wanted was affection all I wanted was to be noticed my feelings to be validated and they never were so I think I'm going to have to do the hottest thing and that's get rid of him I had put myself in a place for 40 days because I got into drugs long story but I've been 6 months clean except I love my marijuana nonetheless and I thought it was the drugs but it obviously was not the drugs and now that I see him for what he really is I don't really want to be with him anymore and I tell him this but he don't take me seriously because I don't act upon my words when I should I'm not wasting my life anymore I'm not doing this anymore I want him to go and I want him to leave me alone and let me live my life because life is worth living when you live in it with somebody that's worth living it with I wish you luck I'm sorry that that happened to you you seem like a very nice guy I hope you find somebody that you deserve my friend and thank you so much it means a lot to me what you said thank you only honest one yet

[Finchie40]

Follow me so we can inbox each other

[Angeleyez76]

I thought I was following you lol.. Let me see what happen and try to follow you ok

[Angeleyez76]

Your ex sounds just like the guy I'm with it's so childishly stupid and waisting my time and energy on someone who don't even deserve it I just can't fathom the heartlessness of him. And then question him about it cuz dating sites don't just pop outta know were and he gets all mad wen I call him out on it like I said I shouldn't be going threw his phone and normally I wouldn't it's not who I am but wen he started acting shady and getting so defensive the only way I could even catch a break was going threw his phone in which I seen all his little local hook up. Com shit and he says I don't know how it got there it wasn't me that I love the most and if he thinks I believe it and goes about the day like nothing I get that but I'll not gonna be used and fukd with like that I deserve better so does my little girl he does nothing at all with us always to tired like really dude you work until 330 I don't know I'm sorry I'm going off again I get so pissed I'm a good girl there's not many left lol so why be dumb I just don't get that

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he is taking you for granted just like my ex did

[Finchie40]

I inboxed you but not sure if you are getting my messages?

[Finchie40]

Keep me posted

[Finchie40]

I take it you are having trouble seeing my inbox messages

[Anonymous]

He's cheating on you. Dating sites don't accidentally show up on someone's phone.

[Angeleyez76]

I agree but how would he find the time because I bring him to and from work so I agree but he comes right home it's there other means of cheating in so gullabull

[Angeleyez76]

Do you think it's possible to cheat over the phone without physically touching them I mean I think the intent is still though of so to me I think it's still cheating I don't know I'm a idiot to stay

[Anonymous]

grudges fights to many backstabs cheating infidelity lies

[Avicenna]

That is the most likely explanation

[Angeleyez76]

I know. I just don't know were he would find the time to is all. Maybe he leaves work early I wish I new it's killing me inside

[Anonymous]

Its never good if theyre back on dating sites

[Angeleyez76]

I know Hun I do. Thank you just sucks to through 12 years away uhh but I rather then be used as a straight fool life's to short for that.. Thanks hun

[In_Trance]

This is ridiculous

Break up

[Angeleyez76]

It is ridiculous and I'm just going to do just that. I just didn't want to throw 12 years away but your right it's more then ridiculous