My boyfriend and I have been down a dark road lately, involving DV against me, I had to take the safety measures in that moment which then created a protective order. It got dropped but even though it’s not allowed he kept posting subliminals on social media just saying how he wishes he could make things right and talk to me and it got to the point we ended up texting before the order was up, it was only about 2 months. But for me it felt like forever which I’m sure for him too. It’s been dropped for about a month now, he’s in therapy once a week, I’m trying to focus on myself I’ve been extremely depressed and not myself. Probably from the trauma. He’s never seemed like a cheater per se, but just a gaslighter. Time apart he recognizes he can’t hit women but still tells me I drive him crazy, calls me names. Says im the most difficult girl he’s ever been with. Brings up my past before he was even around, against me. Uses any mistakes I’ve made against me. Can never seem to forgive. Forces me to talk and apologize but never accepts the apology, says I don’t out enough effort into the apology. I just don’t get it. Anyways. We’ve been ok for a while and he got mad about some spam caller on my phone accusing me of talking to other guys. He grabs my phone whenever he wants. I never grab his. I tell him the honest truth I don't know what number that is calling me and he calls me a lying whore. Well. I’m at his house in his bed tonight and someone is calling him at 2am and I woke up and said babe someone is calling you, he quickly woke up out of sleep and checked the phone and I said who is it and he said probably a telemarketer…I said ok so show me the phone he’s like just stop it’s late and went back to sleep…bc of the DV I’m not trying to set him off but I don’t know what to do.
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Is my boyfriend cheating?
