If your boyfriend cheated on you but made up for it by being the best boyfriend he can possibly be, would you still want to know?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my girlfriend for three years but I cheated on her after turning 2 years with her. She doesn’t know but I felt so bad for cheating that I made it a mission to be the best boyfriend possible. I buy her flowers constantly because she loves them. I hire photographers to take cute pictures of us. I cook for her. I learn new recipes for her. I am becoming the best possible version of myself that I can be.

Yes, I would still want to know.

No, what she doesn’t know won’t kill her.

I hope your relationship fails and she finds someone new. Cheating is unforgivable.

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[Anonymous]

Yes tell her. By withholding the truth, you’re robbing her of being able to decide if she wants to be with you still. Being a great boyfriend doesn’t always make up for everything.

[Asker]

But it’s going to crush her. She’s a really nice person. She teaches kindergarten and volunteers her saturdays in animal shelters. She keeps saying she’s the luckiest girl in the world to have me. What is this news going to do her?

[Opinion Owner]

It will Crush her, like you said. But you didn’t consider when you were cheating, and I’m not saying that in a rude way, it’s just facts. Regardless she deserves to know. She should be able to make her own decision, and if she stays then keep being the best boyfriend you can be.

[Asker]

But it really wasn’t My fault. I was drunk and high at the same time. It was a party and I ended up having sex with someone at that party upstairs in a room

[JustinTheGreat]

Being intoxicated isn’t really an excuse, OP. I get drunk and high all the time and still never got the urge to cheat lol. It’s still your fault

[Opinion Owner]

Like Justin said, intoxication isn’t an excuse.

[LazerBean]

May as well tell her so that at least she knows why the relationship inevitably fails.

[Asker]

I love her too much to allow failure. I’m trying to have a baby with her soon.

[LazerBean]

A cheater can do nothing but fail. And clearly whatever love you may have for her is low quality and worthless.

[Asker]

Those are some wild assumptions! I was drunk at the time of cheating.

[LazerBean]

They aren't assumptions at all, they're facts. Using being drunk as an excuse is further proof of your poor character and refusal to take responsibility for your actions.

[Asker]

How can you say a fact about a prediction of the future? We have a very healthy relationship where we don’t fight at all. I just finished dropping off lunch for her now from McDonald’s. She forgot to make lunch so I brought her McDonald’s to her work for her. I went out of my way and paused work for her. I do things like this for her all the time.

[LazerBean]

I guess we can add thinking McDonald's makes up for cheating to the list.

[Asker]

Did you seriously miss my point?

[LazerBean]

No, I didn't miss your point. I'm pointing out that's it's a laughably shitty point.

[Guy13]

I would not want to know.

[Anonymous]

If you do legitimately feel this bad and you’re a changed man, don’t tell

[Asker]

Thank you