My boyfriend cheated on me- lied about having cheated before (he has) and follows a bunch of insta girls even tho I told him it makes me upset?

[Luna_EB]

Basically my boyfriend cheated on me, I found out, he claimed he'd never done it before despite me saying I needed to know if he had to know whether his behaviour was a pattern. At the 11th hour when I tell him it will be catastrophic for him if I find out later on - he admits he's cheated in every relationship. I've tried to forgive him, but part of my process manifested in checking his insta follow list (BAD MOVE) turns out he's constantly following new OF girls, liking pics of ex girlfriends etc. I call him out on it and say I'm sorry but obviously given your behaviour, knowing you follow these girls troubles me, he says OK il stop, and lo and behold, he's just started following new ones. Aside from this he's like the most respectful, loving partner who I have so much in common with. But am I trying to hard to see the good in him?

[ohsheeT]

This is a very hard position for you to be in he has proven to you who he truly is

And now in so many ways you have to do the same thing to yourself you have to prove who you really truly are and that kind of sucks in some ways but it's a beautiful thing and many other ways.

Because in one way you're going to have to hurt him. And if you don't you hurt yourself for something you've never done or didn't have any involvement in it.

In life when we get into a relationship the bottom line is we cannot make anybody love us we cannot make anybody commit to us because if we try to make them then it's false they have to do it on their own.

And if you give in and tell him everything's will be okay let's keep trying in so many different ways depending on who he is he's either going to learn from it or he's going to take it as weakness and keep doing it.

So this is when you have to make the choice for him and either stay or walk away.

It's one thing when your partner gets caught cheating you can almost forgive that.

But what is hard to forgive is that each and every day that they cheat and they come home to you look you deep into your eyes and act as if nothing happened all they care about is that they're getting away with it.

They think you're full because they're smarter than you because they are getting away. With it.

And every day that they do it. And everyday that they come home lay in bed with you and act as if nothing has ever happened you're just being used in so many different ways until they get caught.. .

And then the breakdown of them not wanting their friends to know about it they start crying about it please don't tell anybody I promise I will change blah blah blah blah blah blah... For me I say fuck that and I say fuck you and I say goodbye it's one thing that you cheated but it's another thing that you acted like nothing happened or is happening and every day that you came home it was nothing but a big lie that's the part I cannot forget or forgive so you have a choice that you have to make because now you have to become who you want to become and want to be known as either strong weak or just you I guess it depends on who you are within

[Paul09]

So what I'm learning about some women, is in order to get their attention you have to cheat and lie behind her back? How do these a holes get women? Why do you call him respectful lol , he isn't. He is using you. Untill somehow gets another woman. Are you still with him, just not to be single? There is no good reason to be with him. Very selfish.

[HelpfulWoman]

why would you try to forgive him?
are you retarded?

[Luna_EB]

Hahaha this made me lol (in a good way) yeah I guess I am. Jesus. I seriously am

[HelpfulWoman]

I'm glad you found it funny.
Remember you are worth more a dude who literally lied to your face, and then switches that every other turn. you're worth more than staying with trash that cheats in "EVERY" relationship.
You don't keep your food trash around when its gone bad, don't keep him

[laly520]

no girl

time to end it n move on fully

[boggboss]

You are with a cheater that won't stop his actions are showing he won't so what do u expect gag to do here

[boggboss]

Its confusing what u are looking for here u can't force a failing relationship to work

[genericname85]

why tell him you're upset? just leave ffs... what's the point?

[Pterodon]

Shame on you for staying