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I saw this happen a lot when I was younger. Admittedly I would sometimes get jealous/frustrated when an attractive woman choose a lesser attractive man over me just because he was “really funny”. And these men were also mediocre at other aspects in their lives (work, hobbies, etc.). Some of them were bums and/or scum bags.

Then I got older/mature and I shifted my position to “well I have to give credit where credit’s due”. If I saw an average looking guy pull a hot woman then I had a “good for you man” attitude. If I saw an attractive woman date some abusive asshole then I had “well you are going to get what you signed up for” attitude as well. And when these women got burned I refused to give them a shoulder to cry if they had the nerve to come crying to me about it.

But now I believe men are being judged more harshly by women on their looks more then ever before. Our digitized society has pushed it with social media and dating apps. But they some of them are just as judgmental as guys used to be (or worse). The only exception would be if the guy has money and/or fame.

I don't think it's really possible to truly become emotionally mature until anyone has started to live independently and forced to make compromises, communicate, and collaborate effectively with others that they don't like. So I kept it in the adult range, as it's not too likely that anyone too young is considering consequences it's relatively easy to avoid those things before becoming an adult.


For the men: what age range have you noticed changes during your day to day interactions, dating, work, etc.

For the women: same as above, or with the additional of your own testimony, and what life occurrences would you say has resulted in the biggest growth in emotional maturity? That last part is the most important.


This question isn't asked out of malice, I'm just curious. I've seen women younger than me be very considerate of the thoughts and emotions of those around them, meanwhile others older show contempt for anyone that goes against them in some way. Is there a point that most flip, or is it a life experience (and men and women live very different lives, hence splitting the question)?