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My ex and I went through a lot of fights. Regardless, we managed to make it work because of our strong emotions. Just before our breakup, it reached a point to where he was calling me names and bringing up my family, basically no respect left on his part & coming at me for little things like me saying “thanks” instead of “thank you.” I blew up on him eventually & mentally checked out. 1 day we got into a fight and he said he’d block me (something he does when he’s mad). I then accepted some requests from guys- i was really mad-on social media (didn’t message them and deleted them later. He found out and hell broke and also found platonic msgs between a male friend I’ve known for 5 years. Those msgs included funny memes. I stopped being friends w/ this guy for him. He asked to check my phone, I didn’t agree because he should trust me & wouldn’t want him to think it’s ok to check my phone whenever he feels the need in the future. We ended up breaking up. We kinda kept in touch though to reconcile. Weeks turned into months leading up to us meeting in person. As we were chatting, he told me his expectations which included he checks my phone, I agreed. Then he asks to see my male followers to ask how I know them. I told him some are friends (since HS) and he didn’t like that. He said he doesn’t like his girlfriend to have male friends & I should take off whoever he doesn’t like. I had a reaction and didn’t let him check my phone so ofc he had major issues. We never got back together but now we’re surfacing the relationship again he told me of the same expectations. I’m really conflicted and don’t know if getting back with given expectations are normal or not. Is getting back a good idea?

I’m 24 moving to another state to live with my fiancé and his grand mother…not by choice but for family reasons. She’s expecting me to ask her how she feels about me moving there. Now don’t get me wrong. I respect my elders and I actually planned to speak with her. But the vibe I’m getting is that I owe her that…and at the end of the day I told my fiancé I didn’t want to live with family all my life. I’m literally moving from my family home so it’s like I’m leaving one controlling family household to another. I don’t want to explain what I do, where I go, or if what I do makes them feel some type of way when I’m a damn adult.

I just don’t like the fact that I’m not given the same common courtesy as well. The phone works both ways and nobody was ever invested in our relationship until he proposed. One I feel horrible enough that I’m a grown ass woman about to go live with someone else’s family. Just makes me regret not saving for my own place and following through with that. I knew he was going to look out for his grandmother I’d do the same but how do we fit us both working full time, attempting to manage kids if we have any and then him taking care of his grandma…. any good man would but where’s the breaking point

He literally bugged out on me and told me to leave him alone because he’s already stressed & annoyed and I’m putting the nail in the coffin…

What should I do?