I just moved to Canada from Barbados and the only job I could get was at Mcdonalds, I'm 32 am I failing at life?

[Anonymous]

I know this is a stepping stone and I remind myself but it doesn't change how i feel. I had a girlfriend here and she left me as soon as she found out I got a job at McDonalds. It hurt but I said I respect her decision and didn't make a fuss about it. In reality it kind of cut me since I know its a different dating atmosphere here from the Caribbean so now I wonder if I should give up on dating since maybe no girl will want to overlook I'm working at McDonalds at this time? As my ex knew it was my first job here and it would be a stepping stone for Canada work experience for me but left anyway when she heard i got it, as she knew my plan and this falls into it (getting a job, whatever i can get for work experience). She works at best buy for 10 years now so guess she thinks I'm nothing if I'm working at McDonalds? I haven't made any friends here yet so I really have no one to talk to about stuff like this, so I hope its okay to post this here. As for McDonald's the atmosphere isn't bad at all but Its mostly kids so i kinda feel awkward most of the time since I can't relate to them and they have their own cliques etc. Customers are nice sometimes but a lot are entitled and treat you like you are some kind of lesser human being with minuscule intelligence or something. I really want to make a good impression so I can have this place on my resume as work experience when I find something better so I hope I don't get fired for standing up for myself. I also want to study Computer Science to get my degree next year God spare life. To help how I feel I jog every morning and workout before work, I get at least 14000 steps a day. It does help with my mood but reality does set in and I still feel down thinking about my position in life right now.

[Levin]

You'll be fine fellow. You shouldn't be ashamed of your job, as you say, it's a stepping stone. You can find someone better who appreciates you for you, but you gotta value yourself! Not expect it externally.

Also, time is on your side. I'm 38 and still figuring stuff out and striving to be better. It's a never ending process.

[Asker]

This comforts me man, Knowing you are also figuring stuff out. I felt like it’s only me since everyone else working here are mostly kids and elderly. Glad I posted my question.

[Avicenna]

Focus on getting on your feet. There will be plenty of time to get a gf- you're still pretty young

[Asker]

Okay thank you for the advice. I will continue to focus on getting on my feet. This encouragement is helping me a lot today.

[_Maya_]

No. I'd argue the opposite. You made a huge leap and moved. That was obviously a positive step or you wouldn't have taken it, right? As far as this girl goes, she is superficial if that is the reason she dumped you. You are trying to get established in a new country. There is nothing wrong with where you work or the fact that you are just starting out. Don't let that one poor experience get you down. You are doing fine, I'm sure.

[Asker]

Thanks for the kind words. I hope I can make some friends here soon. And yes It was a positive step, and yes I know it means she is superficial still hurts though. Will try to keep my head up

[_Maya_]

You're welcome and glad you are here! I've already made some good friends and I'm pretty new. It is a super positive step and congrats for taking that leap of faith. That's right. Head up and keep at it friend.

[Sour-rose]

It's only a failure if you're fat with no job, no goals and just surviving instead of trying to live.

[Asker]

Well I’m def not fat, I work out because I was told it’s a good stress reliever and also good for health Ofc and I guess I have a job so that’s a step in right direction I guess lol thank you. I’m trying to have a better outlook on it.

[Sour-rose]

Yup, so you definitely doing good :D <3

[strateguy632]

for a first job grab what you can and continue searching in your skill. failure not yet. as long as you keep trying you delay failure

[Asker]

Okay I will keep doing my best until better comes